losing control

[ASSMAN]

im tottaly losing control of myself over a girl. This chick friend of mine is someone i have a HUGE thing for but she just wants to be friends, and no matter what i do she wont give it a chance. But she is all over some other guys i know and anytime that happens i get pissed and start to break shit in my apartment about 2 months ago, i flipped a table over and started yelling and swearing, then last weekend she was all over him again and i got pissed off and punched a hole in the wall in my apartment, then last night she slept with a guy she just met and i was able to control myself, but then when she called today i lost it after i hung up and strated to throw chairs across the room breaking a few of em. I came to work and then was still mad and started to punch the walls and tables here and broke some glass, then just a few mins ago she broke our plans to hang out tonight to go out of town to fuck the guy she was with last night. So me, at work now, lost it again, and started kicking shit, breaking more stuff, including a company phone. So eaither i will get fired or have to pay a shitload of money for all this shit, and at this point i need a ton of new furniture cuz the chairs and table are pretty much broken. i dont usually get like this i can normally control my temper but latley i have just been blowing up like crazy. The only thing that pisses me off to the point where i lose control is when shes over other guys, and i know shes not the right girl for me, i dont have to date her to know that, but i dunno i cant get past feeling that i want more. And she says we will never be more than friends and that im her best friend and she doesnt wanna risk messing that up. Also she gets pissed when i get pissed and says that if i cant get it under control she cant be my friend cuz anytime shes over a guy i lose it and it makes her crazy. Im afraid that im gonna lose my closest friend if i cant get myself under control but i dont know how!!!!

[neverspeakawordaga]

Dude, chill.

And stop talking to her. Trust me when I say that that's the only way to deal with it. It sucks, but it's gotta happen.

[Tinkledrinker13]

Buddy, ive been there, not as destructive, the guy before me was right just walk away.. i know the feeling though, cant eat, everything gets on your nerves, but hearing her voice makes it better... she is a siren.. beautiful song but death if u get to close... best thing is to walk away cuz it might work out for ya, if u stop all comunication with her she might come running back and realize what she gave up with u.. and if not then u rid yourself of the wench....

[tattered]

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html
go there and it will explain why u two will NEVER be more then friends

[neverspeakawordaga]

See, I was gonna post a link to intellectual whores, but I didn't think anybody on else had ever read that site but me. Nice to see I was wrong.

[tattered]

yeah the shit is just so well....true...fucked up but true

[MrSquidlow]

Don't even waste your time...
Just walk away...
F her..

[Mr. Black]

Originally posted by MrSquidlow
Don't even waste your time...
Just walk away...
F her..

Word.

[PrncssNikki]

Speaking from my personal experiences (as a girl), when a girl says she just wants to be friends, she means it. 99.9% f the time she won't just suddenly change her mind.

Sad, but true.

[hairtussler]

dude i hope u hit the lottery and then u can call her, invite her over, show her your junk and then show her the briefcase full of cash and say "TO BAD YOU WANTED TO JUST BE FRIENDS, YOU COULD HAVE HAD BOTH.":hi2:

[ASSMAN]

Originally posted by hairtussler
dude i hope u hit the lottery and then u can call her, invite her over, show her your junk and then show her the briefcase full of cash and say "TO BAD YOU WANTED TO JUST BE FRIENDS, YOU COULD HAVE HAD BOTH.":hi2:

lol, that would be fucking sweet! What pisses me off the most is she refuses to it a chance but will fuck guys she barley knows who dont care if they ever see her again. And that link is perfect it explains everything! Last night ended up bieng good though cuz i was talking to my friend about how pissed i was and he threw a party for me and i hooked up with these two bi chicks who are good friends, didnt fuck em but messed around, but i got their #s, so ill see what i can work out with those chicks. They were all over each other so you know what im hoping for! So that might be a step inthe right direction. Thanks for all the help guys!!:liljim:

[Stinkysteve]

Good luck, ASSMAN. You just made the first step in the right direction.
Now let her talk to the answering machine a few times, then the next time you talk to her, just tell her you are in a hurry to get somewhere. You are just, "going out."

[tattered]

Originally posted by ASSMAN
And that link is perfect it explains everything!

told you....she want you to be hear shoulder to cry on fuck that...dont be a bitch tell her straight up that you like her to much sexually to torture yourself with being her friend...plan and simple DONT BE A PUSSY....and she fucks those guys cause they have novelty...they have that bad boy image or as the link likes to call them "outlaw bikers"

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/images/womansladder.jpg
horrible but true

[Jolie]

I mostly agree with the ladder. Except for one thing. It really almost all comes down to "If a man finds you attractive you cannot be friends". I would say, more often than not, the reverse ("If a woman finds you attractive, you cant be friends") also exists. He gives three cases where men and women CAN be friends: 1) Hes gay. 2) The guy does not find you attractive. 3) He already has a woman higher on his ladder.

But in all of those cases, I, as a woman, wouldn't be content really with friends. I may say I am, but only cause I'm trying to maximize my chances at sometime sleeping with the guy anyway. The thought process is, if hes gay but hot, I will want to convince him I should be the ONE woman he will sleep with in his life. If he thinks im unattractive, I'll think that at some time, drunkenness will be in my favor. And if he has someone higher on the ladder, I'll just hope that it ends and I can lend him consolation. But either way, I still just want sex.

But ive been told im different...

[tattered]

Originally posted by Jolie
I mostly agree with the ladder. Except for one thing. It really almost all comes down to "If a man finds you attractive you cannot be friends". I would say, more often than not, the reverse ("If a woman finds you attractive, you cant be friends") also exists. He gives three cases where men and women CAN be friends: 1) Hes gay. 2) The guy does not find you attractive. 3) He already has a woman higher on his ladder.

But in all of those cases, I, as a woman, wouldn't be content really with friends. I may say I am, but only cause I'm trying to maximize my chances at sometime sleeping with the guy anyway. The thought process is, if hes gay but hot, I will want to convince him I should be the ONE woman he will sleep with in his life. If he thinks im unattractive, I'll think that at some time, drunkenness will be in my favor. And if he has someone higher on the ladder, I'll just hope that it ends and I can lend him consolation. But either way, I still just want sex.

But ive been told im different...


ah yes finally a womans opinion on the ladder. and i must jolie i agree with you and so does the guy on the website. you are one of those few woman who acknowledge the existence and truth of the ladder. i must say that what you said is true those people you speak of are those that are not on your friends ladder but the other ladder or are so high on the friends ladder that you may let them make the leap of faith to the other ladder. what about those guys you have on your friends ladder would you ever sleep with them? i wish to discuss this matter further as i am interested in your full opinion

[Jolie]

I'm not sure I have a friends ladder. This guy would say I do, cause there ARE guys I'm okay with being just friends with. But mostly, thats cause I'm married (I have someone better on my own ladder). But really, I am only okay with being just friends because I AM married, and frankly, most of the time, I still want to sleep with them. I *say* they are just friends, but fact is, if given the opportunity, I'd sleep with them.

[robification]

Originally posted by Jolie
I *say* they are just friends, but fact is, if given the opportunity, I'd sleep with them.

hey there, sweetheart.... my name's rob... pleasure to meet you.


wanna be my friend?