Is it worth it to get married?

[Boba Dousch]

My girlfriend and I just broke up because I didn't want to get married, I'm 20 years old and I have no Idea what I'm doing in life and I don't know whether or not I ever want to get married, am I an idiot or better without her?

[d0uche_n0zzle]

You're smart for not letting yourself be forced into one of the biggest decisions of your life. There are other fish in the sea, so look for new pussah and let your cock be your guide, Godspeed.

[bubbawadd]

Marriage is great if you can make it work....but at 20 years old you have too much living to do to get tied down. You made the right decision, especially if her ultimatum was get married or it's over, christ...your only 20.

[Papagolash]

You're only 20?!?!?! And the bitch was trying to get you to marry her? Dude you're only 20!!!!! That's WAYYYYYY tooo young man. You did the right thing by saying no. NEVER doubt yourself for saying no.

[Johnny Socko]

I didn't want to get married, I'm 20 years old and I have no Idea what I'm doing in life.

It sounds like your not ready to get married. Your making the right move.

[JoeyDVDZ]

Dude, NOBODY should ever get married at 20 unless you find out you're dying of some horrible disease that isn't infectious.

[d0uche_n0zzle]

Or the bitch is loaded and doesn't have a clue about pre-nup's.

[HummerTuesdays]

Or, she's really weathy and you get a good pre-nup. :)

[Kid Brock]

Yah, if you have to even ask if marriage is worth it, then no.

I'm 30 and I don't see it happening in the near future. I couldn't imagine the thought crossing my mind 10 years ago.

[debisjb]

No Way you should get married. Take her worst couple of personality quirks and see if you could live with them every single day all day. Combine that with a complete lack of passion, and there you go.

[Monstercloud]

Unless you sing mmm-bop or work for an air conditioning company, you should never marry that young and/or stick with that woman and wait later.

[tattered]

You're only 20?!?!?! And the bitch was trying to get you to marry her? Dude you're only 20!!!!! That's WAYYYYYY tooo young man. You did the right thing by saying no. NEVER doubt yourself for saying no.

yeah he couldnt even get wasted at what i like to call "The End of Fun"

[Precision]

I would never even consider marriage until age 30.

[DJBigFatCock]

ALL, not some, ALL of my friends that married young are devorced or are in the process of a MESSY devorce. If your extremely stupid and have no will of your own then mabey your better off having a woman think for you. but at 20 dont let her manipulate you. she already has a life plan for her self like kids by 22, 3 kids total, SUV, mortgague, a cat that youll hate, the whole deal. Shell burry you in bills and your whole life will be working to support HER life plan. Dont let fear of loosing her and being lonely pressure you into making a HUGE mistake. Only do it if YOU want to get married NOT cuz she tells you to...

[Glenn Dandy]

Trust me on the fact that your brain will be so much different when your 30 than it is right now its incredible... so i wouldnt enter a lifelong commitment when your brain isnt done cooking.
you have much to learn yet, My advice is starting a family around 30. I started at 27 and i wasnt ready yet i dont think. Im 37 now and might consider a wife, if she makes more money than me, of course.

[generoso]

BobA you di the right thing. Don't doubt you decision for a micro second.Your young and smart.Just let this be a lesson for you using the LOVE word.Don't ever use that word EVER . Congrats on your breakup now go out and find the next lady and use this little rule. If it ever gets to that daily phone call break it up and move on...

[crescentwrench]

You did the right thing. If she's pissed that you don't want to marry her at 20 then she's not ready either. Hell, the only reason really for anyone ever to get married now is to legitimize children. If you don't plan on having kids, never get married. The social stigma against living together is pretty much gone now, so that would only leave the respective families, which even then isn't a good reason.

These days marriage isn't a joining of people, it's a joining of assets. It's an archaic tradition and its importance today is way overblown.

And this is coming from a guy married at 26 in the third year of a wonderful married life.

Now don't even fucking get me started on engagement rings.

[generoso]

Trust me on the fact that your brain will be so much different when your 30 than it is right now its incredible... so i wouldnt enter a lifelong commitment when your brain isnt done cooking.
you have much to learn yet, My advice is starting a family around 30. I started at 27 and i wasnt ready yet i dont think. Im 37 now and might consider a wife, if she makes more money than me, of course.
Now Glen let me guess your not drunk yet....I have been divorced for about 10 years I wil never get married again...Came close back in July there

[Rob]

i'm divorced... guess what my answer is...

[prozac]

Marriage is great if you can make it work....but at 20 years old you have too much living to do to get tied down. You made the right decision, especially if her ultimatum was get married or it's over, christ...your only 20.

Wait and the right chick will hit you hard....no rush man. Plus fet married if you want to. Don't do a chick any favors....only problems can come out of it.

[Ballbuster1]

No way should you marry her if that was her attitude. Wait for the
right one to come along. Marriage does work, but it takes 2 people who
really want to be married in the 1 st place. Even then, it takes work.
I've been married almost 28 years and have no regrets.

[dg124]

if you had doubts then you did the right thing

[NikDaSchwugie]

20 is just waaaay too young to get married anyway. You can't even drink legally yet, and it sounds like whoever marries this chick will need to be drunk 24/7. Married at 20, egads.

[RobeSoup&Tears]

20 is WAAAAAY too young.

I first met my now wife when I 11 and she was 9 back in 1981.

We were friends thru school but lost contact for five years (1985-1989)

We got together 1992 (I was 22 she was 20) we got engaged 2001 and married in 2004.

Not everyone gonna be that way I know but you need to be REALLY good friends before choosing to spend the reast of your life together.

[dj1i]

U made the right call dude. it will probably suck for a month or so without her. hopefully u didn't get her preggo....altho it doesn't sound like u did.

whatever u do, don't hook up with her again even if she promises that u guys are just gonna be fuckbuddies that will only fuck ur shit up.

[prozac]

I've been married almost 28 years and have no regrets.

I've been happily married for six years....yes it takes two.

[jules]

Nnnnnooooo Dont Do It!!!!! Ur Too God Damn Young. seriously man at 20, life is still forming itself for you .take your damn time and take it one day at a time,their is no need to put that on your back. there is NOTHING AT ALL wrong with spending a lot of time getting to know a chick,and to live with her for a while.you wouldnt buy a fuckin 100,000 dollar car without taking it out for a nice long test drive,would you? well this is a million dollar car my friend,and at age 20,there is no fuckin way you know a girl, or even YOURSELF well enough to jump into this shit. if people get mad at you or pressure you tell them to fuck themself, cause it is your life man. you are doing the smart thing

[Turtle]

My girlfriend and I just broke up because I didn't want to get married, I'm 20 years old and I have no Idea what I'm doing in life


If you got married she would tell you what you need to do with your life.

[tattered]

20 is WAAAAAY too young.

I first met my now wife when I 11 and she was 9 back in 1981.

We were friends thru school but lost contact for five years (1985-1989)

We got together 1992 (I was 22 she was 20) we got engaged 2001 and married in 2004.

Not everyone gonna be that way I know but you need to be REALLY good friends before choosing to spend the reast of your life together.

you sir played it well.........this is how relationships that end in marriage should go....i made the mistake of getting engaged when i was 19....3yrs later we broke up.....i thank my lucky stars everyday that we didnt get married....esp with the bad blood that is currently between us....you know the break and you say u want to get back together and she says im not ready yet but ill let you know when...6 months later she is dating a 34yr Mexican......am i bitter? yeah very

[THE FEZ MAN]

dude fuck that shit. DO NOT GET MARRIED there is NO reason to get married at 20, your 20's are for fucking not fighting. get a couple of more pieces of ass first, i was 25 when i got married and had a kid i regret most of it but i'm not ready yet to get a divorce

[Budyzir]

ALL, not some, ALL of my friends that married young are devorced or are in the process of a MESSY devorce. If your extremely stupid and have no will of your own then mabey your better off having a woman think for you. but at 20 dont let her manipulate you. she already has a life plan for her self like kids by 22, 3 kids total, SUV, mortgague, a cat that youll hate, the whole deal. Shell burry you in bills and your whole life will be working to support HER life plan. Dont let fear of loosing her and being lonely pressure you into making a HUGE mistake. Only do it if YOU want to get married NOT cuz she tells you to...

Amen Brother!

I was given an ultimatum in my mid twenties ..."either we get married or I'm taking that job offer in California." .... I helped her pack.

[Budyzir]

whatever u do, don't hook up with her again even if she promises that u guys are just gonna be fuckbuddies that will only fuck ur shit up.

Good piece of advice. Think about it, your just fuck buddies and one night she forgets to take the pill!

A solid, eternal break is the best move.

[Fruit Monkey]

My girlfriend and I just broke up because I didn't want to get married, I'm 20 years old and I have no Idea what I'm doing in life and I don't know whether or not I ever want to get married, am I an idiot or better without her?

u are 20 and talking about marriage ok MAY I HAVVE THE FLOOR PLEASE!!!!

let me tell u about divorce and kids and child support and remarriage and so on . you are 20 years old u cant even buy a beer yet at 7-11 and you want to get married? why for what reason ?? to prove your love ?? for a constant fuck?? yea get married and the constant fucking ends !!!!!!! oh yea go get your self a nice 30 year mortgage too a couple of credit cards and a KID!!!! oh yea cause if she talks u into marriage i say 14 months u are a daddy .....

20 years old getting married please u both still smell like baby powder .. wow and when u get married cause if u are asking us u are thinking about it call me in 14 years when they bring u into the ER for a heart attack cause your life is soooooooooooooooooo stress free!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

just my feelings go fuck some one else drop this cunt as fast as u can!!!!!!!:action-sm

[Nurse Ratchet]

I think it was a good idea for you to break up with your girlfriend. Just make sure you stay broken up. Don't go back to her because you lonely or you just need someone to hang out with. You will end up married and unhappy. If you really loved her you would want to marry her. She sounds like a real bitch if she breaks up with you because you don't want to get engaged at 20. Getting married young isn't necessarily the wrong thing to do. Sometimes when you marry when you are younger you truly love the person. When you get older you get picker about stupid things, like the car the person drives or how much money they make. I got married at 22 and I've been married for over 20 years. I knew when I met my husband he was the right person for me. It's not something I even had to think about.

[turdfrgsn]

you made the right call dude
now enjoy your 20s while you can
every single second

[LiddyRules]

Married at 20? The fuck? Just ask her the following two questions. A) Would you consider having an abortion if I paid? B) And if I didn't?

[abudabit]

You should only get married if you really know it's what you want. Ant didn't think it was what he wanted, but he did it anways. That sure worked out great.

[Halo Five]

My girlfriend and I just broke up because I didn't want to get married, I'm 20 years old and I have no Idea what I'm doing in life and I don't know whether or not I ever want to get married, am I an idiot or better without her?

Smart man... :clap:

[BusyChild04]

I'm 20 years old

I'm 19 and the word marriage isn't in my vocabulary. Not until another 10+/- years. There's still so much to enjoy.

[Brady T cell]

I have been married for 17 years. Did it when I was 22. No regrets. The difference with me was that at 22, I was already on a career path and knew what I wanted to do for a living.

The guys that posted here are right. You are a different person at 20, 30, 40 etc. You will know when it's the right girl. Just be carefull on internet chatrooms...it may be Dateline.

[MJMANDALAY]

Never

[KneeKnee]

It sounds like your not ready to get married. Your making the right move.


That reads about right to me.

Dude, you wont even be able to (legally) drink at your own wedding.

Stay single. Fuck anything you can, adn look to get married when you are 30 or so.

[BusyChild04]

20 is WAAAAAY too young.

I first met my now wife when I 11 and she was 9 back in 1981.

We were friends thru school but lost contact for five years (1985-1989)

We got together 1992 (I was 22 she was 20) we got engaged 2001 and married in 2004.

Not everyone gonna be that way I know but you need to be REALLY good friends before choosing to spend the reast of your life together.

:clap: textbook example. I might look up to you, being 19 and all. You need somebody that you know inside-out. You can't go marrying a girl you dated for a year or 2.

[patbattlefield]

i was engaged to lucifer, the prince of darkness for 2 years and the wheels fell off, thank god. 6 months after we broke up i met my wife and i'm happily married for a year now. i think you find the right person when you're not looking.

[patbattlefield]

That reads about right to me.

Dude, you wont even be able to (legally) drink at your own wedding.

Stay single. Fuck anything you can, adn look to get married when you are 30 or so.

agreed, no one knows what they wants at 20. even though they think they do.

[Jimmy's Dignity]

Yah, if you have to even ask if marriage is worth it, then no.BobaD...this is the best advice you could possibly ask for. When given ultimatums for the biggest decision of your life....especially at 20.....you're making the good decision of letting her go. Yeah it'll suck for a while, but realize that it's not all about her, it's also 50% about you. She may realize that she's scared of being alone, blah blah blah, and may wind up coming back to you...but under no circumstances should you then decide that it's time to get it done.

Wait until you're 2 years beyond completely positive that this girl is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with...then wait two more to see how sure she is too (my newest brother-in-law dated my sister for 12 years).

i was engaged to lucifer, the prince of darkness for 2 years and the wheels fell off, thank god.
Wait, you were engaged to a dude? Then you found your wife? :icon_conf

[Kool Aid]

don't have to read this, NO

[ALurker]

I say go for it! Just don't have kids. That way in 4 years when you want to divorce her it will be much easier to separate your assets. Then you can marry for keeps in your 30's and realize what a tool you were. I have three friends who did the same thing and they seem fine now (in second marriages).

[savethewave]

To echo everyone else, you did the right thing by breaking it off. Twenty years old may have been OK in 1847, when people only lived to age 40, but now, 20 is too damn young.

I was married once, and I will never do so again. I wish my ex all the best in finding a new husband, but marriage is not for me.

[rustytrombone1]

Did she swallow and like anal?
Wait...that should have no bearing on your correct decision....

[lucky]

Never ok to marry at any age. Stay single and you will stay happy. The only people that ever marry and say they are happy are just saying that because their wives are looking over their shoulder as they type or like to be dominated. The first few years seem great then not one marrieage is ever really happy ever.


Life is great. Enjoy it fully at all times. So get out there and enjoy life. The pussy is plentiful and another always comes along.

[Boba Dousch]

Thank you all very much for your opinions, they have really help boost my morale about the whole thing. She's gone and it's for the best. Keep the posts coming though I'm loving them.

[jrewing5]

Dude, I'm getting married in 3 weeks and I'm still not even sure if its worth it
:-)

[stokedaspossibl]

of course, it's worth it... in my opinion.
what's not worth it? not being with someone long enough/fooling oneself into thinking you are with the right person and making a big huge mistake.
as my BF says "i would kill my wife before i would ever get divorced". divorce is a horrible thing and i am going to make sure,one hundred percent sure, the person is right before i take the "plunge".

[tar_baby]

yeah its worth it if u want to be with some bitch who will want to control you and say.."dont drink so much"

[PEST BY TRADE]

I've been married for 13 years and No it's not worth it I love my wife and my two boys but I am far from the man I was before I was married. You will for the rest of your life have to walk that thin line from who you were and who she wants you to be. When you have kids it's worse because if it doesn't become what she believes what your relationship should be you will be giving up 3/4's of you earnings and will get to see your kids every other weekend if your lucky. But hey if It works for ya ! Good Luck Bro's ! ! !

[tattered]

as my BF says "i would kill my wife before i would ever get divorced". .

yeah but would he dump her in the bay of Madesto on Christmas eve?

what?



nothing?

[stokedaspossibl]

haha thats funny tattered considering my bf gets told all the time that he looks like scott perterson

[DJBigFatCock]

Stoked I'm sure your a nice girl and your BF is a nice guy that doesn't want to hurt your feelings or maybe he really needs to be married But, Do YOU think that this kid should be forced into marriage by being threatened of her dumping him? Another question is how old are you? I'm sure under 23 and still haven't had your heart crushed cuz your a pretty girl. I'll explain it as simple as possible when a girl gets married she "has her dreams come true" and becomes empowered with control. When a guy gets married he looses control of his destiny because now he has to provide no mater what or face the wrath of his wife that holds the ring like a gun to his head. Ya most women work and provide too but all the pressure is on the guy. a Guy looses his life he once had to become a zombie that just says yes to his wife. Theres more but thats the basics

[lucky]

Exactly what I was saying before. A guy has to like being dominated to be happy being married. Some guys do like that sort of thing. When the divorce happens eventually it will be the guy handing over a portion of his hard earned salary to her not vice versa.

I remember being told that it was compromising that made a successfull marriage, Ha Ha. I dare one to try that one. Communication? Ha. that means you listen and do as told. You had certain habits or things you enjoyed doing before. Well that is over with and all in the name of compromise. Of course it will be all in the name of compromise but you will find all her things stay the same.

If you want to have kids you need to marry though and then the enjoyment should just mean that you are now a parent and leave it at that. Wait until older and get whatever ou of system and then go and be the Daddy and hope that she alwasy has the dream to be a Mommy and will stick with you but it usually is one or the other will get the itch and scramble and the Dad will pay out even more. Good luck.

[whoisisthis]

yeah but would he dump her in the bay of Madesto on Christmas eve?

what?



nothing?


well, considering Modesto doesn't have a bay, and you spelled it Madesto..



No. You get nothing:)

[abudabit]

Exactly what I was saying before. A guy has to like being dominated to be happy being married. Some guys do like that sort of thing. When the divorce happens eventually it will be the guy handing over a portion of his hard earned salary to her not vice versa.

:icon_roll Either that or you could just not marry a bitch. :icon_roll

[whoisisthis]

yeah, I can't believe this thread is still going




no. the answer is no

[lucky]

:icon_roll Either that or you could just not marry a bitch. :icon_roll

No, the married thing is the empowerment for a lady and a debasement for the guy. Just don't marry in the first place and enjoy life fully.

[KneeKnee]

:icon_roll Either that or you could just not marry a bitch. :icon_roll


Comon, bro. You know that peopel change once they are married. Some for good, some for bad.

You can't assume that once you marry a person who isnt a bitch, they will stay that way.

[lucky]

Comon, bro. You know that peopel change once they are married. Some for good, some for bad.

You can't assume that once you marry a person who isnt a bitch, they will stay that way.

Finally someone gets it. Exactly.

[abudabit]

Comon, bro. You know that peopel change once they are married. Some for good, some for bad.

You can't assume that once you marry a person who isnt a bitch, they will stay that way.

Dude, you know people don't change. It's still the same woman. It's hard to recognize a bitch when your dick is hard, even though all your friends knew from the beginning what she was all about. That's the reality. Guys marry shitty women. Women marry shitty guys. It happens. "Change" is just an excuse people make so they don't have to admit it was right in thier face the whole time.

[stokedaspossibl]

When a guy gets married he looses control of his destiny because now he has to provide no mater what or face the wrath of his wife that holds the ring like a gun to his head. Ya most women work and provide too but all the pressure is on the guy. a Guy looses his life he once had to become a zombie that just says yes to his wife. Theres more but thats the basics

i have had my heart broken many times, actually and looks had nothing to do with it.
i agree with you to a point, but that is an extremley one sided way of looking at things.
i know many men who are like babies, and if they end up with some psycho biotch it's because they were dumb enough to do so and not see the warning signs.
in addition i make a lot more than my BF. When a bill or mortgage (for example) is in both names, it's hard to say a guy has all the responsibility of being the provider (unless the chick is an idiot and doesn't care about her credit score).
long story short, marriage is a great thing and i am an optomist i refuse to believe that everyone has a cruel core and wants to screw people. but thats just me.

[lucky]

i have had my heart broken many times, actually and looks had nothing to do with it.
i agree with you to a point, but that is an extremley one sided way of looking at things.
i know many men who are like babies, and if they end up with some psycho biotch it's because they were dumb enough to do so and not see the warning signs.
in addition i make a lot more than my BF. When a bill or mortgage (for example) is in both names, it's hard to say a guy has all the responsibility of being the provider (unless the chick is an idiot and doesn't care about her credit score).
long story short, marriage is a great thing and i am an optomist i refuse to believe that everyone has a cruel core and wants to screw people. but thats just me.


Spoken like a true young girl. But I am a lot older and know what I speak of from experience. The guy that started this thread is very young and from his reaction from the manipulative girl shows me he may just make it through life here without being too much damaged

As for the mortgage being in both names is irrelevent when the courts will always screw the guy when both seeks a divorce for any reason whatsoever. He will lose almost all and she will get what she wants and the guy will just have to take it. So unless the courts actually make it more even it is a losing proposition to go into marriage for a guy.

Unless you are the one percent who actually go through life till death do you part.

[KneeKnee]

Dude, you know people don't change. It's still the same woman. It's hard to recognize a bitch when your dick is hard, even though all your friends knew from the beginning what she was all about. That's the reality. Guys marry shitty women. Women marry shitty guys. It happens. "Change" is just an excuse people make so they don't have to admit it was right in thier face the whole time.


People DO change. That is a part of the problem. What happens when you have kids...Get a house...have money problems...? People change all the time. They change for the good and they change for the bad.

You cant be sure you are going to be w/o a bitch because she wasnt one when you got married.

It is a roll of the dice.

[stokedaspossibl]

well, whoever has more money ends up losing more money. that's the bottom line.

[tattered]

well, whoever has more money ends up losing more money. that's the bottom line.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA your funny.....no the courts still consider women weaker then men no matter how much money they make....unless the guy comes from nothing and she is a multimillionare...there is one word u most always remember when entering a marrige


PRENUP PRENUP PRENUP

[patbattlefield]

Wait, you were engaged to a dude? Then you found your wife? :icon_conf

haha

[BCH]

Jeez, are we a little bitter Lucky? You may be overstating the case just a tad.

As for me, I think 20 is probably a little too young to be planning a wedding. There's a window of opportunity between the times when you're too young to know who you are really, and when you're too old and set in your ways and not malleable enough to accept someone else into your life.

Mrs. ConveyHair and I were married at 22. A slight bit young perhaps for most but that gave us a few years to live together without the overwhelming need/desire to have children. People who wait until they're in their thirties to get married have the pressure of having children put upon them right away. We had 5 years of just us before we tried to have our first child.

It's been 13 years and 3 kids now and there's not one sign of trouble. I think having the ability to "grow into" our relationship has been helpful from a longevity standpoint thus far.

But as for this specific girl? Fuck her! Mrs. ConveyHair also never pressured me or made ultimatums. If she had, she probably would not have gotten married to me.

[jrewing5]

In all seriousness, I'm getting married on December 3rd, and I'm not worried.
I've been with my chick for over 5 years and I thought it through very carefully before I proposed.
I been with lots of crazy chicks before her, and I figured, since she's normal, I better snatch her up or I'll end up with one of the looney-tunes. I know I made the right choice, but I thought about it HARD before I bought the ring.

[DJBigFatCock]

my bitterness is from lots of experience with unstable women. The best part is most of them THINK there normal (as long as they take there meds). Ive thought allot about marriage and weighed out the pros and cons. For me in my live I prefer single. I like instability and change. If I marry thats all gone. I have no doubt that most people are capable of a good marriage but being forced into it with an ultimadum... FAAAWWWKKK TTHHAAAATTTT

[abudabit]

Well I want to say congrats to all the married people and people getting married. Not everyone is Anthony.

[lucky]

May sound bitter but actually isn't. Am tired a bit of the ladies who hook up with me and after only being together weeks or months start wanting a commitment.

I do have a lot of nice things. A great house, Great car, several pieces of acreages, Great retirement savings already, money in the bank, etc. And it seems they want to latch onto this hard earned gains of mine and get their piece of it. Fuck them. And some of them have even more than I and do very well and still want that advanced commitment so fast. It isn't for my looks or charms I will tell y'all now. If I was going to have had kids then I would have made the sacrfice but I never got my wish for a son ( I prayed not to have a daughter when my ex-wife got pregnant). So why should one get married if there will never be a family to come out of it?

One day I will find a GF that actually will be just a GF for years until I can actually get to know her.

Before I finish I will tell the truth. I think I had the best wife ever, she was great in all ways. Too bad I had the flaw that killed our love. At least her love anyway. I will always love her. I am a Lucky man to have had her and I gave her everything in the divorce.

[Jerseygirl]

Here is my advise from being in the same situation..(girl side)...I am 24 years old and have been with the same guy for 7yrs....We have been living together for 5yrs now.(YES 7yrs. = since 17yrs old for you dummies who can''t do the math) I have wanted him to marry me since I was 19 and he was "20". He didn't want to no matter how much a begged. And there is no need for a pre nup because 1/2 of nothing is nothing. He just wasn't ready. I have always wondered what makes a man ready to take that leap but I don't have a penis so I will never know. But because of the love and commitment we have for each other and the support we give each other in life I have stuck around knowing in the end we will get married (when he is ready) Lesson of the story is if she loves you enough a dumb ring or silly piece of paper doesn't make a difference if you are together everyday supporting each other! (And lots of sex helps)

P.S. but use protection because if your not ready to take a 50ft walk down an isle no way are you ready for KIDS....ugh!

But who am I?

[lucky]

Thank you Jersey Girl. I can your appreciate your perspective a lot.

[Boba Dousch]

Your all great, I haven't talked to her since I posted this thread. I've already moved on, I hope she ends up happy. thanks again folks!

[lucky]

Jeez, are we a little bitter Lucky? You may be overstating the case just a tad.



I will admit only to a teeny tiny tad overstating the case.

[Razor Roman]

I am 26, and just got married in Sept. I am happy that I am married, but will say it's a LOT of work and a LOT of money.

and if a girl who is 20 will break up with you because you're not engaged yet, she's psycho.

You need to be out of school and working full time at least 6 months before she can bitch you out about that - and you not have an excuse to dump her.

[druboogie]

Your instincts were right, always follow your instincts for the rest of your days.

[Boba Dousch]

Your instincts were right, always follow your instincts for the rest of your days.

Very wise.

[YUCK FOU]

dude you have a lot of living to do...i was 26 whan i got married i love my wife but hate the fact that the relationship changed so much. we have kids so that makes a huge difference but what gets me is how i went from getting that ass every night to getting it once a month if i am lucky...it pisses me off that she still wants me to work for it i just want to get it and go not have to rub her back all night etc.....oh well other than that it is not bad i guess my biggest fear is to be old and alone but dude you have plenty of time to find the right one...

[Milwuakee Cop]

I got married at 20, pretty much right after I graduated the academy, and she was 19. We had been together since I was a sophmore in highschool and she was a freshman. We got divorced when I was 22, she thought I was cheating on her, when I infact, worked the late night shift. I'm now 25, with a girl who actually knows I work at that time of night and isn't trying to force me to get married again. So I'd say wait some time, figure out what your going to do. 20 is way to young to juggle a marriage and still growing up.

[ALurker]

Getting married is not much of a step. Most people who have been going out for awhile try living together and marriage is not too different from that. Really, a marriage can be dissolved pretty easily. Kids are the huge commitment. Once you have kids with her, then you are truly commited to the relationship. Then any dissolvement costs tons of money and ruins your life. I see very little risk and marrying young and possibly screwing up, the real risk is having kids young. Don't do it!