What's the longest amount of time you've been single?

[Sprite]

Lately I've been quite upset and slightly angry at the fact that I've been single for over 2 years now. By single, I mean not in a committed relationship. I've dated alot of women in that time, but I wasn't serious with them and I don't miss any of them at all. What I do miss is not feeling lonely all the time and being in a comfortable relationship with a cool chick. I guess you could say I'm pretty picky about the women I date and I have strict criteria a woman must meet for relationship status, so maybe my situation is partly my fault. But, I refuse to settle for less than what I want and feel I deserve. I don't see a point in committing myself to someone I'm not 100% into. Still the fact remains, I haven't met or dated a woman in the past 2 or 3 months now, and I'm getting very frustrated. I'm really starting to question why I'm so alone and I'm driving myself crazy.

How long have you been single, past or present? And once you found someone, were they worth the wait? Also, if you ever felt the way I do now, what got you through the dry spell besides porn and jackin? :icon_wink

[KneeKnee]

I was with my last girl for the better part of 9 years. We split up during that time for about a year, but still talked, and hung out. There was a few months or so during that year when we didnt talk and i dated a little then.

We got back together and broke up, again, last november. That was rough...I went out with a dozen or so girls after that and each one had something wrong in my eyes (If anyone here rememebers the Granny Panties thread...). Around my birthday in August, my X started coming around/calling me and blah blah we started talking again....things changed, we worked out a lot of stuff, made compromises.....BULLSHIT....that lasted about 2 months before i walked out having enough of the same shit we broke up for...

So I guess, technically, I have been single for about a year now.

Now I am back to dating again and not having much luck.

At first I kinda liked it, but now, not so much. I am lonley. Maybe that sounds ghey, but I am. I woudl really like to get on with my life, but it is rough out there.

So, you arent alone, Limpy; actually I could echo exactly what you feel.


But, just because this is an OnA board...


GOOD LUCK, BRO!!!!

[Sprite]

So I guess, technically, I have been single for about a year now.

Now I am back to dating again and not having much luck.

At first I kinda liked it, but now, not so much. I am lonley. Maybe that sounds ghey, but I am. I woudl really like to get on with my life, but it is rough out there.

So, you arent alone, Limpy; actually I could echo exactly what you feel.


But, just because this is an OnA board...


GOOD LUCK, BRO!!!!

Haha, thanks dude. That's exactly how I feel too - as if I can't get on with the rest of my life until I find "the one". I'm never getting married and I'll never allow myself to be pussy-whipped, but that doesn't mean I don't want to be in love and share my life with a woman. I actually love when Ant talks about his chick and the relationship they have. She sounds like the kind of woman I look for, and their relationship sounds alot like what I would call "ideal".

BTW, it seems you learned your lesson about "going back". If it didn't work the first time (or 2 or 3 times...) it's never going to work. It may be good for the first few months, but as you said it's the same shit that will cause problems and ultimately cause it to end again. I have a 6 year old son and his mother and I were together for the better (or worse el-oh-el) part of 5 years. Naturally, we tried to work things out and be together for the sake of our son, but every time we got back together the outcome was the same. Damn good thing we never got married!

The last time I went back to an ex it was my "high school sweetheart", and we got a hotel in AC for 4 days and saw 'lil Jimmy perform at the Borgata. She was back in NJ from FL for her brother's funeral, and she told me she was still in love with me and would stay if I wanted to be with her, which I said I did. A week goes by after the show and I cant get in touch with her. 2 weeks later she's married to some Mexican dude in Palm Springs, FL. Fucking women! :icon_conf

[Sinn Fein]

I did a 3-year stint after getting fucked over by this dumb whore who I actually thought I was going to end up marrying. Looking back, I clearly seet that I am better off and am glad things worked out the way they did. But at the time, it really messed with my head.

[NikDaSchwugie]

My mother wouldn't let me date until I was 15, does that count?

[Sprite]

My mother wouldn't let me date until I was 15, does that count?

Of course, silly. :)


Can a Mod please add a 5th option to the poll for '5 years or more'? Thanks. I had no idea there were so many 2+ years...

[BruceKellysJunk]

I did a 3-year stint after getting fucked over by this dumb whore who I actually thought I was going to end up marrying. Looking back, I clearly seet that I am better off and am glad things worked out the way they did. But at the time, it really messed with my head.


Ding Ding Ding (not the inappropriate bell)

same thing happened to me. I hate girls.

[vice86]

haven't dated anyone since my divorce in May '04...I'm working on losing weight first....55lbs lost so far..about another 45-50 to go.

[Sinn Fein]

I added some options to the poll, as requested plus a few more.

[HummerTuesdays]

I haven't had a "boyfriend" since I ditched my fiance in '99. That's a story for another time. Let's just say, MEN DON'T LISTEN. I do date, but for some reason it never blossoms into a serious commitment.

For the most part I've been content with my singleness. I have no issue going out alone to bars, to parties, whatever. Friends are over rated, but I do have my siblings and a handful of acquaintances that I'll chat with & go out with so I'm not exactly lonely or alone.

Would I like to be in a relationship? Sure, who wouldn't? But I'm not about to commit to the first asshat that comes along. Like you Limpy, I am extremely picky.

One of my many mottos is that I'd rather be single and content than in a relationship and miserable.

[AJellyDonut]

I haven't had a "boyfriend" since I ditched my fiance in '99. That's a story for another time.

What happened? Did you run off and claim you were kidnapped by mexicans?

[HummerTuesdays]

What happened? Did you run off and claim you were kidnapped by mexicans?

LOL Don't I wish! We had only been together about 6 or 7 months and on vacation when I realized I didn't really want to be with him anymore. During that trip we happened to be in a jewlery store and I was avoiding the "ring" section. I specifically said, "I don't want a ring. I don't want to be married. I want a Movado." (This is "men don't listen" part.) About 3 weeks later I get a ring (and no Movado). I refuse it and he bitched and whined and cried for days until he wore me down. I accepted, knowing I was just digging myself in deeper. A few weeks later his temper (and drinking and lies) got the best of him, and I left. He never hit me, and I certainly wasn't going to stick around and find out if he would.

And yes, I gave the ring back. No, I didn't replace the stone first. I didn't want to give him any reason to call me ever again.

[NikDaSchwugie]

I haven't had a "boyfriend" since I ditched my fiance in '99. That's a story for another time. Let's just say, MEN DON'T LISTEN. I do date, but for some reason it never blossoms into a serious commitment.

For the most part I've been content with my singleness. I have no issue going out alone to bars, to parties, whatever. Friends are over rated, but I do have my siblings and a handful of acquaintances that I'll chat with & go out with so I'm not exactly lonely or alone.

Would I like to be in a relationship? Sure, who wouldn't? But I'm not about to commit to the first asshat that comes along. Like you Limpy, I am extremely picky.

One of my many mottos is that I'd rather be single and content than in a relationship and miserable.
Hear, hear! I hear so many stories from my friends about relationship problems, and there's always "that girl" who's in a relationship just so she won't be single. She's miserable, but she's got a man! :icon_roll

I'm happy with myself now, I'd like to have someone, but it's not the most important thing in my life right now. I'm working on saving money and learning some fiscal discipline. I've been single about a year and a half, and I'm fine.

[AJellyDonut]

LOL Don't I wish! We had only been together about 6 or 7 months and on vacation when I realized I didn't really want to be with him anymore. During that trip we happened to be in a jewlery store and I was avoiding the "ring" section. I specifically said, "I don't want a ring. I don't want to be married. I want a Movado." (This is "men don't listen" part.) About 3 weeks later I get a ring (and no Movado). I refuse it and he bitched and whined and cried for days until he wore me down. I accepted, knowing I was just digging myself in deeper. A few weeks later his temper (and drinking and lies) got the best of him, and I left. He never hit me, and I certainly wasn't going to stick around and find out if he would.

And yes, I gave the ring back. No, I didn't replace the stone first. I didn't want to give him any reason to call me ever again.

Yeah, we really are terrible listeners, but that's because women constantly yap. After a while you just learn to listen selectively. Glad you made it out of that relationship without any bruises. At least you cut your losses before it was too late. I guess it's never too late when you're dealing with a psychopath.

[kloraferm]

I'm better off when I'm single.

[IDontCare05]

Too Long.

[JoeyDVDZ]

Single here, and while not exactly lovin' it, not gonna lose any sleep over it either. Women who have come and gone from my life have all, for one reason or another, been either no good for me, or didn't think I was good for them. Either way, it's still me and Ms. Lefty on a Saturday night.

An ex of mine IM'ed me just the other day, been doing it sporadically since I told her it wasn't working out, that she was too shaky in her commitment to the 'ship, and started making noise that she wanted to come back. I immediately shut that nonsense down. I don't tend to go backward.

[FishinForBabies]

I have been single for 29 years........

I suck...

[droopygirl106]

I'm 22.. my first serious relationship started when I was 16 and I'm in my second one now.. and I've only been single between these 2 relationships for a couple of months.
I did enjoyed my time being single.. but I don't really hope to become single again anytime soon.

I do think that if it doesn't works out with my current bf.. I might as well stay single for ever.

[Chimpo]

I went single for 6 years during my 20's. Prime years that I'll never get back.

Currently serving 1 year and 2 months in solitude.

[whoisisthis]

I want a Movado

you have good taste



gotta be about a year for me. I like the girlfriend thing:icon_conf

[Glenn Dandy]

I was a single from the time i was born till about 17. Thats 17 years. then i got a kiss and went three more. I had ZITS! Couldnt get laid if i fell out of a chickens ass.
Im more gooder now.

[Neo_Is_God]

ive been dolo my entire life

[stokedaspossibl]

god i havent been single since 9th grade (2 people)!!!!!

[Ballbuster1]

Since I started dating..........maybe a year.
Been married for 28 years now, so no long
breaks for me.

[Sprite]

I went single for 6 years during my 20's. Prime years that I'll never get back.

Currently serving 1 year and 2 months in solitude.

See that's what I'm talking about, prime years. I just turned 27, I should be out dating and having fun, but I'm in the worst dry spell of my life. What bothers me most is that I never ever had a problem getting girls and rarely had a shortage of sex, or even blow jobs at the least. I don't feel I've changed all that much so I don't understand if it's me, just getting older, or what?

[GLENN_THE_TOOL]

been single my whole life. my life is such a horrifying, humiliating mess that i can't bear to put another person through my daily nightmare. i can barely live it myself, i can't with good conscience ask someone to live it with me, at least not until my situation gets better.

[Lil'GlubGlub]

Let's see. I am 24, so 24 yrs.

[Chimpo]

See that's what I'm talking about, prime years. I just turned 27, I should be out dating and having fun, but I'm in the worst dry spell of my life. What bothers me most is that I never ever had a problem getting girls and rarely had a shortage of sex, or even blow jobs at the least. I don't feel I've changed all that much so I don't understand if it's me, just getting older, or what?


Glad I could serve as your example.



I'm gonna go run a bath and see how many extension cords I have.



You know, for kicks.

[CM Mark]

I didn't have my first date until I was 21. dated a ew people during 2001, then was single again until the begining of this year.

And now for the pathetic parts, and I know I will get ripped for these, but I don't care.

I didn't have my first official girlfriend until this year, age 25, and I didn't get laid until later this year.

Let the member bashing begin. :action-sm



EDIT: btw, I voted 10+ years

[THE FEZ MAN]

not counting the time before i started dateing 16 or so, i have always had a chick that i was hanging out with banging her or not. the longest time i went was after my first GF dumped me for being a drunk, that lasted about 6mos till i started banging again i was on and off with chicks till i met my wife 12 years ago.

[Bob Loblaw]

2 1/2 years. I was married twice and it has been about 2 1/2 years since the last one ended. I tried dating for about a year after that but fuck that. I'm not looking to answer to anyone. I'm no longer going to give up what I want to do shit that I don't. I have 2 kids and I get a side peice of ass now and then and this is my current plan until I can find that girl that is into EVERYTHING that I am into or a pretty girl with a Russian accent who can put up with my shit.

[Bunny™]

single: 1977-1993, 1994-1999, 1999-2000, 2004- present

Math is hard.

[UnOriginal]

I spent 3 years, I spent it in training, learning to become the greatest masturbator I can be. I also refined the art of self pity and determined what type of porn I enjoy the most. So in other words, my 3 year hiatus was a waste of time.

[I <3 Ben's Hog]

I've been alone for awhile and I'm kinda getting use to us - but I miss having a guy. I was seeing someone most recently, but I stopped calling him when I saw him with some other girl....kinda ruined everything.

[KneeKnee]

Is is possible to become more depressed and less depressed while reading the same thread?

I guess so...


It is good to know that I am not alone yet it stinks to realize dating/being single is so rough.

[tar_baby]

i didnt read the whole thread but 2 years?...thats not long at all man

though i know what ur talking about with being lonely and shit...thats why u gotta find a slut to go to every now and then

[Kyle]

I'm a youngin' so my perspective on the situation is a little different in that a nice run of a year without a serious relationship is a good thing so long as you know some girls that can fulfill the urges while commitment free.

[KneeKnee]

Thats the thing guys, I dont think we are talking about getting laid. (I'm not) Getting pussy/dick occassionally isnt hard at all. What's difficult is finding someone to be with and form a meaningfull relationship with.

[BCH]

Thats the thing guys, I dont think we are talking about getting laid. (I'm not) Getting pussy/dick occassionally isnt hard at all. What's difficult is finding someone to be with and form a meaningfull relationship with.

And making sure she's wearing quality undergarments.

[KneeKnee]

And making sure she's wearing quality undergarments.


DAMN RIGHT!!!

[Kyle]

Thats the thing guys, I dont think we are talking about getting laid. (I'm not) Getting pussy/dick occassionally isnt hard at all. What's difficult is finding someone to be with and form a meaningfull relationship with.

Yeah, I think I got that. I was just saying that, being a youngster, my view on going a long period of time without a real meaningful relationship is that it isn't necessarily a bad thing, because I'm more concerned about straight up banging chicks.

I can tell you that the much worse thing than not being able to find a meaningful relationship is trying to force yourself to believe the one your in is meaningful when it clearly isn't. A lot of kids my age (20) fall victim to that. I think it's a College thing.

A buddy of mine has been going out with a chick for a few years now and I think he assumes it's really meaningful and he'll end up marrying her even though he doesn't really seem too happy in the relationship. I get the feeling when he talks about, it's like he's trying to convince himself that the relationship is worth it. I don't know why...maybe it's the fear that even though the one he's with isn't that great, if he let's her go, what if he never finds another one, or one as good again.

Being trapped in that hell I think would be much worse than not being able to find anyone.

[tattered]

ive been single for a year now...ironicly that was also the last time i got laid......................this year has been filled with drinking, self pity, riding my quad, more drinking and self pity


yeah im fucking lonely

[THE FEZ MAN]

ive been single for a year now...ironicly that was also the last time i got laid......................this year has been filled with drinking, self pity, riding my quad, more drinking and self pity


yeah im fucking lonely


now all you need to do is buy a gun....... oh wait you did that :icon_roll

[KneeKnee]

now all you need to do is buy a gun....... oh wait you did that :icon_roll


Why does he need a gun? Wont chlorform work better?

[tar_baby]

anyone else jerk it to skinemax tonight?...bikini a go-go

thats what this lonely guy is doing tonight

[KneeKnee]

anyone else jerk it to skinemax tonight?...bikini a go-go

thats what this lonely guy is doing tonight


No, lonely guys around here are playing SimCIty 4.

[TaZMaNiaK]

No, lonely guys around here are playing SimCIty 4.

I'm on Hour 8 of The Shield DVD Marathon.

I mostly work nights this time of year so I have no social life. Had an ugly breakup when I was 21, and have had no desire to start another serious relationship. The random fling is one thing, but I don't need someone around that I have to spend money on, be sappy and loving to, and devote my life to, just so she can cockblock any good time I might have, then go fuck around with someone else on me. I'll pass, thankyouverymuch.

Oh, so to answer your question, hookups aside, I've 'officially' been single for 5 years.

[Sprite]

thanks for all the input guys and girls... makes me feel a bit better :) although, i caught an episode of Cathouse 2 on HBO lastnight and found myself wallowing in self-pity afterwards. i looked at my dick and it said, "don't even bother....just go to sleep". maybe i should forget about finding a girlfriend and concentrate more on finding a fun sex partner. that may be easier than looking for a girlfriend and more physically rewarding.

ps - that Isabella Soprano is a real piece of ass.... and during that episode i hear her mention she's been married for a year and a half. consequently, i also noticed she put on at least 20lbs.....more proof women let themselves go after marriage (even hookers!), and more reason not to marry.

[VersionX]

I can tell you that the much worse thing than not being able to find a meaningful relationship is trying to force yourself to believe the one your in is meaningful when it clearly isn't. A lot of kids my age (20) fall victim to that. I think it's a College thing.

Being trapped in that hell I think would be much worse than not being able to find anyone.

This man is ABSOLUTELY fucking correct. I was in this type of relationship from 20-22 (I'm 22 still now) and it was such a horrible decision on my part. I ended up getting a lot of the ol' scars on the mind and heart cause the girl I was with ended up choosing the prospect of random dick over me. Doesn't that make ya wanna go chug some bleach?

But I'm better off being single than in that situation. By the end, I was getting treated like shit to the point where it was really affecting my depression/self-esteem issues (sorry if that sounds ghey) and I had to walk away. She ended up dropping out of school and still tries to talk/fight with me every few weeks/months, but even though I'll always love her at least a little bit, there's no way I could ever go back to that shit.

So for now, I'm enjoying being single, banging whoever I feel like, and waiting for a girl who is adult, mature, loyal and knows what she wants(impossible to find in college). Oh well, one year til graduation!

Don't feel bad, all you single guys...Relationships cause alot of damage in the long run when you get fucked over.

[Sprite]

So for now, I'm enjoying being single, banging whoever I feel like, and waiting for a girl who is adult, mature, loyal and knows what she wants(impossible to find in college). Oh well, one year til graduation!


Just don't be too busy bangin' so that you miss the right one. That's the key. :action-sm

[Glenn Dandy]

I had a rough spell. When i broke up with my sons mom i kept my son, and he was autistic so babysitters were non existand, his mom took him on Wednesday night.... real happenin night,,, plus i was workin fitter in North Jersey starting at 7. So had to get him up around 4 am take him to his momstill schoolin the morning to get to Merc in Rahway by 7. usualy got home around5:30- 700 pm depending on weather.pick him up and do it again next day....needless to say my social life was non existant. for approximatly5 years.

She finaly screwed up and lost the social security she was getting for him, because she got married, dumbass,,, free money;;;;lost... so she being a woman just sued me for supporteven though he lived with me. so i started paying and also started saying here take care of your son for 600 a month bitch...

[Sprite]

I had a rough spell. When i broke up with my sons mom i kept my son, and he was autistic so babysitters were non existand, his mom took him on Wednesday night.... real happenin night,,, plus i was workin fitter in North Jersey starting at 7. So had to get him up around 4 am take him to his momstill schoolin the morning to get to Merc in Rahway by 7. usualy got home around5:30- 700 pm depending on weather.pick him up and do it again next day....needless to say my social life was non existant. for approximatly5 years.

She finaly screwed up and lost the social security she was getting for him, because she got married, dumbass,,, free money;;;;lost... so she being a woman just sued me for supporteven though he lived with me. so i started paying and also started saying here take care of your son for 600 a month bitch...

man, now i REALLY don't feel bad. props to you for taking such care of your son and maintaining responsibility in the face of adversity. you're a good man, mr. dandy. :clap:

[HummerTuesdays]

I'll always love her at least a little bit

I thought that too, when I was your age and the guy I had been dating for 3 years broke up with me. Eventually you move on and it just doesn't matter anymore.

[tar_baby]

mr. dandy is one fine feller

[Boba Dousch]

I was with this girl 4 years ago for a year or so and then she left me and I was shattered, I was totally single for 2 years after that, and then we ended up getting back together last December. We broke up again two weeks ago, and I feel like the past 3 years have been such a waste because for the two years that we weren't together I didn't want to be with anyone else, and then, just as I was starting to get over her, we got back together.

The last 11 months we were together were cool but she wants marriage and I don't yet (I'm only 20 years old) and our views on pretty much everything else completely conflict, so it's just like I'm back to exactly where I was three years ago when we broke up to begin with.

I don't think that it's so much her that I missed during those two years, but, just not having someone around when you get home or someone to talk to before bed and in the morning, that does get lonely and a little depressing but I'd rather be a little lonely right now, untill I find someone I'm happy with, than be stuck in a relationship I'm not happy with just to be comfortable.

[DougsBest]

Well. you talked about time alone. My wife, exwife now, had me removed from home in Aug of 2003. For the first 9 months we lived seperately. After that we came to the conclusion that this wasn't really working. Our two daughter, 6 and 8 now, were not adjusting well to me being gone. So I moved back in. Not to her bed room, but to our wreck room in the bacement. We are divorced. She has a "friend". He never comes around here when I am home. So what the problem you say? The problem is I'm alone in my home with my children and my ex-wife. What makes it worse is, and this is the really sick part, I still want her back.......Yuch
So trust me.......just being alone is not really all that bad, being alone and knowing what you want is right up stairs sucks.

I've taken to these words written by Paul Simon. It Kinda works for me

I have my books
And my poetry to protect me;
I am shielded in my armor,
Hiding in my room, safe within my womb.
I touch no one and no one touches me.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

And a rock feels no pain;
And an island never cries.

[chrisjbell]

I went single for 6 years during my 20's. Prime years that I'll never get back.

Currently serving 1 year and 2 months in solitude.

Even worse is getting married at 21 to a fridgid chick and sticking around for nearly 8 years. I suppose it is about the same thing, but the difference between being single and lonely and married and lonely is that when you are married you have someone bitching about you all the time.

I think the folks that have the ability to get rid of the shitty partners and stay single have it right. I'm not one of those people - in marriage #2 and thinking about what I should have done differently.