Ever turned your life around?

[BravoSierra]

Maybe I'm getting too indepth for the good of wackbag, but has your life ever been in kind of a slump? Could be women, drugs, location, the crowd you hang around with.... anything. However, something just doesn't feel like it should. LIke, you're not in the place you wanted to be a year ago.

I only ask this because I've smoked for 6 years (I know, not shit compared to most), got deep into alcohol after moving away from home, and pretty much lived a life I wanted to live at the time, but sick and tired of it now.

Three weeks ago I got on the patch.... and I've never fucking felt better. Even got a new job within that time that I REALLY fucking love. Pays better too. (Just can't listen to OnA while on the job) My dad's owned a bicycle shop all my life and was always huge into mountain biking up until I fell into my slump. I played varsity soccer, and was a ski bum during the winter.


I'm not trying to "toot my own horn," but have you just been somewhere mentally or physically that you liked at the time, but realize it completely sucks cock later on? Maybe you moved somewhere that seemed right, but later on felt it just wasn't for you. Is this just part of life? Just kinda works in phases like this? I know there's some wiser wackbaggers than me, a 24 year old. I feel like I've wasted 6 years of my life.... which mathematically is 1/4 of it. Was in college, dropped out.... and working shitty jobs since then. If it weren't for my wife.... honestly, I don't know where the fuck I would be.

I don't expect life to be great all the time, but it just seems like ever since I moved out of my parent's house when I was 18, nothing really felt like home. Can anyone even remotely relate to this?

[Arc Lite]

I was a total asshole after high school. Dropped out of college after one semester. Ended up doing all kinds of drugs. Including meth, shooting it up. friends and I stole a car (300zx) and tried to take it to the nearest large city to sell for money. We got there but got arrested, then expedited to our home town and spent 2 months in the local prison awaiting trial. I got very lucky with a time-served sentence and 3 years probation.

After that I was able to get my probation transferred to Dallas where my friends were living. (the ones in the car plot that didn't get caught). Worked for a moving company for 5 years and finally decided that I didn't want to do that for the rest of my life, so I went back to school and it's mostly all worked out.

Life is probably going to always have it's ruts. Just find what makes you happy and do it.

[THE FEZ MAN]

yes

i was hanging with the "wrong crowd" and i changed that twice. because i went from the realy wrong crowd to a lesser wrong crowd. to the funless ass that i am now. i only wish that i had quit my old shitty job years before i got fired

[HerkyJerkyLiz]

I don't expect life to be great all the time, but it just seems like ever since I moved out of my parent's house when I was 18, nothing really felt like home. Can anyone even remotely relate to this?
yes. especially this part. ive been in my own very nice apartments since moving out of my parents house when i was younger and none of them felt the same. i think thats just how it is for a while. especially if you spent your entire life living and growing up in the same house. one day everything just falls into place.

[Ren5150]

Yep. Lost some tons I needed shedding. Also stopped my financial spendapaolooza and sold 20G's worth on ebay.

[JoeyDVDZ]

Faggit. :action-sm

[OnANorton]

Nope, still the same ole piece of shit!

[Fendbass22]

Kinda long, but I have had this twice in my life and im only 23. The first time was when I was in a relationship since high school and she was older and went to college. All was good until she graduated. Then she was home while I was in school and trying to run my life. At that point I was staying at school and work as long as I can to avoid being told what to do at home in our shit apartment on the college campus that she worked at after graduating. To make a long, horrific story short, she basically felt that if what I was doing wasn't going to benefit our lives later on in life don't do it. aka, don't spend money on things that won't benefit HER later on. Any gifts for my birthday or christmas would be things that somehow she would twist that I would like them, but really they were something that would be a clutter in a house later on in life.

One night she attacked me with so much rage for simply working late (retail during christmas, it can't be avoided) that I was scared of her but knew I had to get out. Attacked as in clawing with her nails at the inner forearm and made me go to the hospital, and I actually had to restrain her by putting my knee in her back on the floor.

I didn't care what happened to us anymore but I didn't know how to get out. At this point we were together almost four years. I had been talking with a high school friend at school (a girl) about my situation, she found out and still didnt care but I tried using it as an excuse that I should leave and I couldn't be trusted. Basically, I lied, said I had been banging her for months and thats how I got out of it. She was a good friend for takin the heat on that one, and now she is my girlfriend of almost 3 years next week. Best girlfriend I have ever had, she will most likely be my wife.



Part 2
When I had just seen the single life after 4 years I had started to hang out with friends who I had basically abandoned because of her. I began to smoke weed all the time. and I had been til about 2 months go. I started to really hate my job and see a bunch of people score this really nice jobs (interns, co-ops, all paid) but I couldn't cause there is no way I would pass a piss test. (stop it, all those stupid GNC pills or cranberry juice doesnt work)

One night my buddy and I get blazed back in June and are invited to this kids house (trailer) and when I get there we smoke more, more, and more. Bongs, pipes, hukkas, and at one point I think there was 12 people passing around 6 ways to smoke. I was just in this state where I looked around and everyone there was a brain in high school (good grades, good parents) and now they are all fucked up on drugs and never completed or went to college like I had thought.

Right then I think I was bad trippin in my own head thinking, I AM these kids. Shit. The next day I had the worst day at work (I absolutely hate my job, been in it 4 years) since I have been working. Right then and there I said I am done smoking, so I can get an internship/co-op to get my foot in the door.

Slowly, two of my friends have started to stop smoking since I did on June 12th. And, all of them realized from me how much they hated their jobs and are cleanin up for a piss test.

Will I smoke after my new job? Possibly socially. Will I do it every night until I am high more than sober? Never again.

[Coffee Diva]

What is this "life" thing you speak of?

[Voss's Tumor]

At this point we were together almost four years. I had been talking with a high school friend at school (a girl) about my situation, she found out and still didnt care but I tried using it as an excuse that I should leave and I couldn't be trusted. Basically, I lied, said I had been banging her for months and thats how I got out of it. She was a good friend for takin the heat on that one, and now she is my girlfriend of almost 3 years next week. Best girlfriend I have ever had, she will most likely be my wife.

Wow, you jumped from one rut right into another. How about... I don't know... dating a little bit?

[25133WhooOoAH]

yes, in Hs i chilled with(Who i thought were friends)but Realized that they were just potheads, we all used to be good friends, around 9th grade we all started to become huge potheads and started to hang out with the wrong crowd. By 10th grade i Pretty much said fuck you all, i Quit smoking cuz it was fuckign me up. Made tuns of new friends , i became more outgoing and talkative, i found a g/f. and to this day i love every second of leaving that group of piece of shit friends. I got great friends now.........

But at thsi time, i'm trying to lose like 20 pounds and find a good job. I suck right now. And Trying to meet some ladies..........Signing up for the gym today, feel great about that.

[Wrecktum]

I was In highschool. and me and my friend had a wrist rocked decided to sit on an over pass and he busted some guys window out he chases us into the meadows we loose him but not for long but to our suprise he had a friend with him and a baseball bat oh boy did that turn my life around i havent touched a drug or a sling shot in 5 years

[Cromwell]

Yes.

I went the way of Jimmy and Jay.

Best thing I've ever done in my life.

[Mikey Mouse]

No. I always made the right choices in life.

[dodisman]

8 years ago Ecstasy almost buried me...Was 2 year struggle to climb out of that hole...and lots of antidepressants...won't touch the stuff ever again...But i'm in a better place now then i ever was so its just another step in life for me

[NortonsGravyLeg]

I almost spent my entire teenage life drinking like a maniac and smoking as much weed and dust I could. I watched enough people around me die from either drug induced suicides or ODing. A really good friend of mine since we were kids just died back in May from a heart attack due to all the drugs he used to do. However, I guess the straw that broke it for me was the weekend I couldn't ingest food. I had drank so much that it honestly hurt my stomach to eat real food, not mention the black out which only lasted 8 hours but scared the living shit out of me. I probably couldve used a rehab or a group or something like that but I was able to swear everything off after that except smoking. I thought I was in the clear but no it got a little worse. I spent the next two years with anxiety attacks, depression, fainting spells and eventually agoraphobia (sp) fear of the outside. It wasn't until I turned 20 when things finally turned for me. I was lucky enough to have a good therapist who didn't feed me pills or bullshit. I'm doing %100 better, its been 5 years. I'm still in a bit of money (unrelated) trouble and I have other probs like everyone else does, but I think I am in a good place now too.

[ADD Theater]

Probably the first four years or so after I got out of high school. I was the dorky kid they made fun of. My buddies and I didn't go to college and just started drinking and smoking pot. Over time it moved from booze and pot to 'shrooms, acid, then coke...One day I was hanging out and they were doing lines and my buddy was playing with his gun. He was worried that some guys were after him and stuff. It just sort of hit me that I was almost 23 and just going in the completely wrong direction.

I was getting into a serious relationship at the time. We moved away and I started college at night. I got a few promotions and started making some money. It worked out very well for me.

I think anybody can change. They have to want to, make a plan, and then just go do it.

[Jolie]

Yes.

I was living in New Mexico (grew up there) working at the same company as my mom, and living in a craphole apartment in the student ghetto. I had dated probably every available guy in Albuquerque, and some that weren't technically available, and had recently broken up (okay, he dumped me) with yet another in the long line. I looked at my life and realized I would never achieve what I wanted in life if I stayed in NM, so I asked a friend in Virginia to send me the Washingtonpost want ads, and I applied for a job. I also planned a trip out to the area to visit it, because honestly the only time I'd even been out here I was 5, and I didn't remember that at all.

I sent out my resumes in August. The trip was planned for halloween. By the night before my trip, I hadn't heard back from anyone, and I had found out that the "friend" who sent me the paper (and who I was coming to visit) wanted to be "more than friends". So the night before I left, I had a long talk with another friend of mine in NM and told him I didn't think I was going to take my vacation. He finally said, "Look, if you go, you may hate it, it may suck. But if you don't, you may be missing out on the best thing in your life."

I got on the plane the next morning (Halloween day). When I got to VA, my friend had a party planned for us to go to. There, I met a guy that I thought was really cute, and his complete lack of interest in me (or so I thought at the time) made him more attractive. We talked for all of 5 minutes. That was a Saturday.

Tuesday I got an email from one of the places I had applied, saying they knew I was in town (I had put that in my cover letter) and were wondering if I could come in for an interview. We set up the interview for Thursday morning. Friday morning I got a call offering me a job and I accepted right away.

I moved out here Thanksgiving 1998, three weeks after my interview. The cute guy I met at the party ended up being the guy I married, and since then I have achieved more than I ever thought I would be able to. I have a beautiful house, two really nice cars, a job I actually like (just got it recently) for a change, and most of all, a beautiful daughter and a husband I even sometimes like.

[Mikey Mouse]

We should start a betting pool on who is the first to relapse.

[Glenn Dandy]

Life comes in sections::::::: Your a kid:::::::::then your a teen:::::::then your in your 20's:::::::::30, 40's 50's 60's...

My feeling is you should change up atleast three times. Im still in the process but I could take my dad hes 70.

His life was poor kid
Marine corps 17
partyed 20
wife 22
kids 25
divorce 37
partyed 50
setlled down with a good cook 54
And retired and is now 70... never a happier man ive met.
Rich, happy, heathy, dude. WITH GREAT KIDS I MIGHT ADD;)


As far as Drugs n alcohol.

He partyed till he was bout 34 heavy tapered off to nothing i would say 45. quite smokin etc...

I say dabble in everything dont get in any ruts. Feeling like your in a rut? Change everything.

I know you will all be sad to hear I quite drinking , smokings next.. I felt like i had partyed the fun out.. Time for something different. I wanna see how much money I can make is my new challenge. I want my dad to see me realy successful before he dies.. My goal is rich by 50. Then meet the chic that can cook like dad did.
Will consider girls who can cook now and know accounting.lol

[Ballbuster1]

I was a dick head as a teenager. Got into trouble quite alot.
Got busted for dumb shit and lost my license many times.
Now I have a good life, 2 great kids and a very understanding
wife. Been married almost 30 years and things are great.
Yes, you can turn your life around.

[ChoppedLiver]

Trying to turn it around right now. Middle-aged, diabetic, fat fuck.

I know, I know..... "Good luck, bro.":icon_conf

[Mikey Mouse]

Trying to turn it around right now. Middle-aged, diabetic, fat fuck.

I know, I know..... "Good luck, bro.":icon_conf

You'll fail.

[generoso]

Like almost everybody said twice for me. Burnout after college living at home got my 1 st real job and straighten myself out was on cloud nine. Got married had a kid and bought my 1st home for 75g's. Well after 7 years marriage my great job went to shit because of new mangement and my future ex got PPD from having my son spent all our money sank deep into credit card debt and finally had to declare bankrupcy.
So one day I divorced the wife found a new job that I liked better for lower pay. Fought tooth and nail for custody of my son. bought a crappy 1 bedroom condo and picked up the peices. Now 10 years later own a nice house no debt except for the mortage. Son is oging to college next June amd I'm very happy. Plus my ex wife who had a great job is now a cashier at a home depot after a BF stle her checkbook and soaked her for every penny, Also she lives in her fathers basement. So it took time but I happier now than ever. With the exception of the birth of my son.