How do you comfort someone who just got *****?

[ShooterMcGavin]

My friend, whom I used to date for maybe a month, was *****.

She was drunk and got escorted out of a bar by some douche, who acted like he was helping her, but, well...you figure out the rest.

I was just on the phone with her and all she kept saying was "it's my fault, it's all my fault," no matter what I was asking her.

Me: Are you hurt? Did he hurt you?
Her: Don't worry about it, it's my fault.
Me: That's not what I said, I asked if he hurt you.
Her: It's my fault.

I tried everything I could. I'm usually great at helping people with dealing with their problems, but this is an area I've never been before. I ended up telling her, "just hide from anyone who wants to talk because obviously that is just making things worse, try to get some sleep, and I'll call you tomorrow."

I feel like I'm partly responsible for her saying "It's my fault." She said to me.

"I was dressed like a whore, you even told me that."

It was Halloween, and of course all girls dress like sluts (and it's terrific), and I joked about how her outfit was whorish when she showed me a picture. She knows me, and knows not to take me seriously, but I quickly learned what impact that has in certain situations.

She's a really good friend of mine, and I really wish there was something I could do to comfort her, but I have no idea what to say after a thing like that. She wouldn't even tell me what happened, her friend took the phone and told me about it hoping that I could help her.

I couldn't do anything but tell her to try and sleep on it.

Time to drink this out of my system.

[martianvirus]

At least she knew that she was dressed like a whore. Girls should know that they can't go out and get wasted while looking like a slut.

[abudabit]

Well the first thing you do is remind her that it isn't her fault, it's the fault of the rapist. There is an islamic cleric in Australia who recently said any woman who doesn't wear the hijab deserves to get *****. The suggestion that someone brings it on by their dress is ludicrous. You have to say again and again it isn't her fault, plainly so she understands.

Second thing you do, if she has a problem with drinking, is suggest that she stop. But don't do it so it seems like you are saying she was ***** because she was drinking, because she is under the mistaken impression that it was her fault and you might make her very self conscious. Don't push this though because women don't like receiving advice, they like receiving empathy. And alcoholics really don't like receiving advice.

The third thing you do is not ask serious questions on Wackbag, especially with the word **** in them. Case in point is Martianviruses answer.

[martianvirus]

Her=---- kit
Shooter=Crawlspace

They make a great radio team.:icon_mrgr

EDIT: You can't say ****?. what the fuck.

MOD NOTE: Once again...Please check the FAQs on Censored Words (http://www.wackbag.com/faq.php?faq=new_faq_item#faq_new_faq_item9). It is all explained there.

[ShooterMcGavin]

Time and time again I tried telling her it wasn't her fault. She woudln't listen. She wouldn't listen to anybody. That's why I told her to sleep on it, because she's way too shook up right now.

[abudabit]

Yeah, it sucks. You can't even say a sports team got ***** (edit, I guess you can say *****). You can't talk about the ******* running around stealing shit either.

[abudabit]

Time and time again I tried telling her it wasn't her fault. She woudln't listen. She wouldn't listen to anybody. That's why I told her to sleep on it, because she's way too shook up right now.

Well unfortunately there is no silver bullet. Some women get over it, some women don't. No way to tell which she will be, and in the end there isn't a ton you can do. As long as you keep reminding her it isn't her fault and be there when she wants to talk about it I think that's all you can do.

[martianvirus]

Time and time again I tried telling her it wasn't her fault. She woudln't listen. She wouldn't listen to anybody. That's why I told her to sleep on it, because she's way too shook up right now.
That's why you can't be friends with girls. They are dumb and can't be responsible for themselves.

Don't let it bother you. Dressing up like a slut and getting drunk is like my white ass walking into the getto. I know better and so should she.

[ShooterMcGavin]

Would shooter then get sloppy seconds?:action-sm

Even though this issue is close to home, I have to admit that's pretty funny.

[Ant's_rapier]

Did they catch the guy?

[martianvirus]

If you really want advice, The only thing she should do is call the cops, and send this creep to jail.

And there isn't anything you can say to make it better. Now she just has to deal with her own mistake.

[RobeSoup&Tears]

Although this may not fit...sometimes saying something isn't what she might want or need...maybe just being there for, and with her.

An ear or company.

[martianvirus]

Although this may not fit...sometimes saying something isn't what she might want or need...maybe just being there for, and with her.

An ear or company.
Would shooter then get sloppy seconds?:action-sm

[Sack of Chisels]

Good luck bro
and
Good luck ho

[Mommadeez4u]

Tell her it WILL be her fault if she doesn't go to the police and help in every way she can to put this guy in jail-- because she'll be enabling him to **** some other trusting soul. The only thing she's at fault for is being too trusting (when her judgment was impaired), nothing else. Call the bar and tell the owner/manager what happened, ask them to save receipts and any surveillance video they may have, get in touch with the doormen and see if they remember this asshole--there's a ton of stuff to do. She needs a medical exam soon too, to check for std's.

[MrBogey]

**** is an emotionally jarring issue. Trying to use logic to work past it IMO is not that effective at first. The girl is suffering from PTSD. You have to treat it the same. Counseling has a role but there's a greater emotional impact on her. She has to feel comforted. IMO opinion the best bet for you is to socialize with her and try to reduce the feelings of isolation and fear.

http://www.st-andrews.ac.uk/sss/information/self_help/assault.htm
http://www.wikihow.com/Cope-with-****-Related-Post-Traumatic-Stress-Disorder

[mascan42]

Best solution: go across the street and pistol-whip the guy, then tell her to hide the gun.

[Dopie Opie]

Can anyone say

Rapeprevention prevention kit.

I hate to make light of the situation and nobody deserves
to be taken against their will.

This is text book. She goes out and this happens with
someone she knows. She did not encourage it, thats a given,
But if she does not prosecute, its hard to have any sympathy.

It makes you wonder what the chicks are thinking, when
something like this happens and then they just let it go.

Sad indeed.

[Three Hole Puncher]

You could comfort her by telling her...

"Look on the bright side, at least he wasn't a schwoogie."

[wes mantooth]

I feel bad for your friend. She should contact the police and have this asshole arrested. Do what the previous poster stated about calling the bar owner and gathering evidence.

Why are girls so stupid though? Not the slutty dressing part. I have no problem with that. The walking home alone after the bar closes or trusting complete strangers part. Why put yourself in a position to get used like that? This whole girls are equal to boys thing that seems so prevalent now gives girls a false sense of security too. My teenage nieces talk about how "I can handle myself. I'm not scared of any boy" whenever I tell them to be careful since they've started dating. I say to them "oh OK, you "kicked" ass on the soccer field when playing against them so you think you can fight them off during a ****?" Nevermind that the boys are usually holding back on the field most of the time. Can't tell'em shit though. They know everything.

Sorry for the rant. This shit just struck a nerve.

[Three Hole Puncher]

This dizzy bitch I used to date was a r-ape waiting to happen. She may as well had "R-APE ME" tattooed on her forehead.

And here's the reason why... because she had "confidence".

Which is the last thing that's going to keep a girl from getting r-aped. She had taken self defense/r-ape prevention classes at her college, and I'm sure the classes were taught by some clueless man-hating lesbian. They learned shit like how to properly kick a man in the nuts, and how to gouge out eyes with a set of keys... a bunch of useless shit that would only piss a r-apist off. And you know they'd forget everything they learned as soon they took the first stiff crack in the mouth.

But she came away from those classes thinking she was a strong, prepared, self-reliant gal. "I am woman, hear me roar!"

Bullshit.

Bravery gets you nothing but trouble. Fear... that's what they need... that's what will keep a woman safe... a healthy dose of mistrust and fear.

This dumb broad used to walk across her college campus alone at night. The campus was in Schenectady in upstate NY. Trust me... it's a scary crackhead schwoogie town. I was afraid to walk alone in that town at night. I begged her not to, but she was "prepared".

Dumbass. I should have slapped her face, thrown her on the floor, and ripped her pants off just to show her how worthless her "training" had been, but you know the lesson would have been lost on her. She would have called the cops on me and been walking alone across campus the very same night with "confidence".

Some of them just have to learn the hard way. Sucks. :icon_sad:

[Multiple Miggs]

How do you comfort someone who just got *****?
Promise her you'll never do it again.

[Bill Lehecka]

Inappropriate response: Don't start humming "Singin' in the Rain."

[patbattlefield]

It is despicable that women get ***** by these degenerates, however, a lot of women are really fucking naive when it comes to protecting themselves from predators.

[Razor Roman]

I would say, that first you should make sure she gets the proper medical / psychological attention, and that she also follows up legally.

Eventually she will understand that some people are just animals who don't understand that no matter how good something looks you can't just take it.

You are not trained to deal with **** victims, so I Dont think anyone would expect you to know how to handle it perfectly. I would honestly say the best thing you can do for her is support her, help her get the help she needs, and make sure that she knows she is loved. Just be a friend.

[Harvey_Birdman]

Must resist temptation to hit "canned laughter" button on soundboard.

[Arch Stanton]

Wow, alot of posts stating that women are not aware, or dressing or in places that are almost asking for it.
How is the victim responsible for this in any way?

Say this happened to you, a man, you know, you stupidly wear nice fitting jeans, or a pleated pair of khakis, a fitted shirt, just showered and shaved, your hair was just cut and your in great shape.

You are the target for the night. A few drinks are shared, a few laughs, and bam. You are physically forced to do the un-thinkable and not only physically scarred but also mentally scarred for life.

How do expact anyone to be angry at the attacker or even prosecute when you went out in public like that?

[WonkaVision]

Find the guy who did it and beat the living shit out of him.

I never used to believe all the statistics on ****...saying "1 of 3 woman is sexually abused in their life". But knowing more people, I think its more than that...I can't tell you how many woman I know who have been ***** or molested as childre. Its a sick fucking world, and you gotta take the law into your own hands if you expect any kind of Justice.

[ShooterMcGavin]

Its a sick fucking world, and you gotta take the law into your own hands if you expect any kind of Justice.

Maybe I could call this guy.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a333/shootermcgvn/Dexter.jpg

[Multiple Miggs]

Maybe I could call this guy.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a333/shootermcgvn/Dexter.jpg
A fudge packing funeral home director?

[tar_baby]

How do you comfort someone who just got *****?

you don't

http://right-thoughts.us/images/uploads/nelson-haha.gif

[ShooterMcGavin]

I just got off the phone with her. I tried to talk about it with her but she won't. I tried to ask her if she called the police and all that stuff but she said

"No i didn't, goodbye"

And I had to keep her from hanging up. So I just asked her about school and stuff and it seemed like she is ok if she doesn't think about it.

My sister is a shrink, I'm going to see how I can get her to my sis. I'll be helping a friend as well as my sister's business :P

[Jimmymakesmewet]

I absolutey do not agree that dressing a certain way makes it "your fault" if you get *****. HOWEVER, we know the kind of world we live in, and no one (man or woman) should go out with the line of thinking "it isn't going to happen to ME". And that's why you shouldn't be so drunk you need help out of the bar, and that's why you do need to be aware and not just trust any stranger with a nice smile.

I am not saying that any one deserves what happened, I am jsut saying that as a woman, I know that I can't just go get sloshed in a public place and hope that everything will turn out ok. When I go out, I go out WITH someone, I make sure I have a DD or a cab, I don't leave the bar with people I don't know. I pay attention to my surroundings.

Its not that it is a girls "fault" that something happens, it is that women need to be educated on how to avoid it. Not how to kick some guys ass if he tries it, not to carry a can of mace and feel "confident" but how to make sure that you don't put yourself in a position where it is possible.

[Madness]

Which is the last thing that's going to keep a girl from getting r-aped. She had taken self defense/r-ape prevention classes at her college, and I'm sure the classes were taught by some clueless man-hating lesbian. They learned shit like how to properly kick a man in the nuts, and how to gouge out eyes with a set of keys... a bunch of useless shit that would only piss a r-apist off. And you know they'd forget everything they learned as soon they took the first stiff crack in the mouth.

I knew a couple of girls that took these classes and I openly laughed at both of them. I told both of them instead of getting ***** they'll get ***** and murdered as kicking some guy in the balls won't do shit. One of them took the hint and at least bought a can of mace.

Wow, alot of posts stating that women are not aware, or dressing or in places that are almost asking for it.
How is the victim responsible for this in any way?

It's a horrible thing but there are a lot of times where they victim put themselves in that situation. It's not their fault per say but they could've avoided it. Like if they decide to walk alone late at night in the bad part of town. It's not her fault some animal ***** her but she did make a bad decision that put herself at risk.

[Three Hole Puncher]

I knew a couple of girls that took these classes and I openly laughed at both of them. I told both of them instead of getting ***** they'll get ***** and murdered as kicking some guy in the balls won't do shit. One of them took the hint and at least bought a can of mace.

I tried to reason with my girlfriend along these lines. It did no good.

One night we were at a bar and two dudes got into a fight and started duking it out. It was a prettry brutal fight and these guys were pounding on each other.

I told my girlfriend, "Did you see that? Did you see how ferocious that was? Now consider this... the reward for winning that fight wasn't even guaranteed sex. Do you seriously think you could have stopped either of those guys with car keys or a kick?"

She wouldn't budge. Her rug-muncher self defense instructor had made it all look so easy. Some filthy savage grabbing her from behind on a dark street, that's what it would've taken to get it through her thick skull.

[Madness]

Yeah, I hate those self defense classes. They fill women's heads with a ton of shit that won't do them a bit of good in a real situation. Handguns should be standard issue for women so they can just put a couple of bullets into any would be rapist.

[Razor Roman]

Could a woman make herself look less appealing to a rapist? Maybe, but not all rapists are interested in getting a chick just because she's dressed like a "Slut" Could a girl be more careful, not go out alone, not drink so much she loses track of herself, sure. But just because you aren't doing those things doesn't mean it is your fault if it happens to you. People who do it are sick f's.

[D.H. Jenkins]

I once had an ex tell me the same story a few months after we broke up. Helped out of a nightclub, vague, noncommital description of what happened, followed by a refusal to contact the authorities or seek medical/psychological treatment. I found out a few months later it was just a sympathy ploy. Not saying that's what happened, just throwing it out there...

If it did happen, and she refuses to go to the police or seek treatment, there's nothing you can do, so come to grips with it as fast as you can and move on. She'll be damaged goods; a walking fun-killer that will make you feel guilty for your innocent, off-handed comment for the rest of her miserable life.

As far as instilling the proper amount of fear in your woman, just challenge her skills. Once she sees that a person who's actually trying NOT to hurt her can beat her, she'll either understand how useless her "training" is or she'll break up with you and you'll be short one dummy in your life.

[wes mantooth]

Could a woman make herself look less appealing to a rapist? Maybe, but not all rapists are interested in getting a chick just because she's dressed like a "Slut" Could a girl be more careful, not go out alone, not drink so much she loses track of herself, sure. But just because you aren't doing those things doesn't mean it is your fault if it happens to you. People who do it are sick f's.

I agree. That's why I've never bought the whole don't dress as a slut and you won't be ra-ped thing. These sick fucks will **** anything (fatty pig fatties, 80 year old women, even black chicks I hear:icon_mrgr )

[MrBogey]

She's moved past the event and doesn't want to revisit it. There's little you can really do as a friend. It's all up to her. She'll be damaged for a long time.

[DonTheTrucker]

Give her one of these.

http://shop.military-club.cz/images/airsoft/uhc/uhc_desert_s.jpg

[martianvirus]

Wow, alot of posts stating that women are not aware, or dressing or in places that are almost asking for it.
How is the victim responsible for this in any way?

Say this happened to you, a man, you know, you stupidly wear nice fitting jeans, or a pleated pair of khakis, a fitted shirt, just showered and shaved, your hair was just cut and your in great shape.

You are the target for the night. A few drinks are shared, a few laughs, and bam. You are physically forced to do the un-thinkable and not only physically scarred but also mentally scarred for life.

How do expact anyone to be angry at the attacker or even prosecute when you went out in public like that?
That's not the point. I know better than to walk into a black neighborhood as a white man. If I get shot it's my fault. Even though it's against the law to shoot people for no reason. It's a sick world out there and when girls go out looking like sluts while being drunk, it's just going to lead to trouble. Sure, in a perfect world girls should be wasted while naked and nobody would **** them. But we don't live in that world. And yes, this guy should go to jail.

[Voss's Tumor]

You wipe your dick off on her teddy bear!

What... too soon?

[tattered]

My friend, whom I used to date for maybe a month, was *****.

She was drunk and got escorted out of a bar by some douche, who acted like he was helping her, but, well...you figure out the rest.

I was just on the phone with her and all she kept saying was "it's my fault, it's all my fault," no matter what I was asking her.

Me: Are you hurt? Did he hurt you?
Her: Don't worry about it, it's my fault.
Me: That's not what I said, I asked if he hurt you.
Her: It's my fault.

I tried everything I could. I'm usually great at helping people with dealing with their problems, but this is an area I've never been before. I ended up telling her, "just hide from anyone who wants to talk because obviously that is just making things worse, try to get some sleep, and I'll call you tomorrow."

I feel like I'm partly responsible for her saying "It's my fault." She said to me.

"I was dressed like a whore, you even told me that."

It was Halloween, and of course all girls dress like sluts (and it's terrific), and I joked about how her outfit was whorish when she showed me a picture. She knows me, and knows not to take me seriously, but I quickly learned what impact that has in certain situations.

She's a really good friend of mine, and I really wish there was something I could do to comfort her, but I have no idea what to say after a thing like that. She wouldn't even tell me what happened, her friend took the phone and told me about it hoping that I could help her.

I couldn't do anything but tell her to try and sleep on it.

Time to drink this out of my system.

**** her again....shell get over the first one

[Absolutely]

Could a woman make herself look less appealing to a rapist? Maybe, but not all rapists are interested in getting a chick just because she's dressed like a "Slut" Could a girl be more careful, not go out alone, not drink so much she loses track of herself, sure. But just because you aren't doing those things doesn't mean it is your fault if it happens to you. People who do it are sick f's.
Exactly, It's not about fucking a hot chick.
And to say in any instance that "They had it coming" is moronic.
Someone SHOULD be able to go out in whatever the fuck they want and not have to worry about being assaulted and ----ed.

[generoso]

Just be her friend Shooter that all you can do. Let her talk to you or just be with her even if she doesn't want to talk. I was in your shoes as well. I'm not a shrink, or in Law. I gave her my shoulder to cry on thats about it.

[Three Hole Puncher]

Exactly, It's not about fucking a hot chick.
And to say in any instance that "They had it coming" is moronic.
Someone SHOULD be able to go out in whatever the fuck they want and not have to worry about being assaulted and ----ed.

And I SHOULD be able to walk down Farmers Boulevard in Queens at 3 in the morning chanting "I'm white! I'm right! My pockets are stuffed with cash!!" at the top of my lungs and not have to worry about being pounced upon like a gazelle at a watering hole.

And we SHOULD all live in gumdrop houses on Lollipop Lane.

[martianvirus]

And I SHOULD be able to walk down Farmers Boulevard in Queens at 3 in the morning chanting "I'm white! I'm right! My pockets are stuffed with cash!!" at the top of my lungs and not have to worry about being pounced upon like a gazelle at a watering hole.

And we SHOULD all live in gumdrop houses on Lollipop Lane.
That's what I've been trying to say.

[MyMomsBox]

Offer to drive her to Planned Parenthood...

[25133WhooOoAH]

girls are always in these situations wtf! they trust too many people

[GonzoRadio]

And I SHOULD be able to walk down Farmers Boulevard in Queens at 3 in the morning chanting "I'm white! I'm right! My pockets are stuffed with cash!!" at the top of my lungs and not have to worry about being pounced upon like a gazelle at a watering hole.

And we SHOULD all live in gumdrop houses on Lollipop Lane.



That'll get you *****.

[tysonpunchinguterus]

Anyone who r_pes someone deserves to fucking die. If she doesn't prosecute, then I hope his next victim has AIDS and he doesn't know it. That's not likely to happen though, so she HAS to prosecute. Let that sack of shit see how he likes being on the receiving end of that shit when he's in prison.

[rupert pupkin]

How do you comfort someone who just got *****?

well first you untie her and let her leave :action-sm

[favourite]

This is fucked up, make her go to the cops and just be there for her. Even if she did dress like a hooch doesn't give anyone any right to touch her. Would it be right if we came and kicked a guy in the balls just coz of the bulge in ya pants...no. All you can do is be there for her and reasure her it wasn't her fault.

[commish13]

My question is, and not to sound like a douche, but do we know if this guy was completely sober? Do you know that they weren't both drunk, did what they did, and now she deeply regrets it and is saying she was *****? I'm not accusing your friend of anything, but personally knowing a guy who was falsely accused of ****** a girl (thank God justice prevailed in his situation), that experience is the first thing that pops into my head any time I hear about something like this.

[martianvirus]

More importantly, was he an n?

[D.H. Jenkins]

It's very simple, and it applies to everyone - if you look like an easy target, you'll get treated like one.

Women who dress slutty are viewed as easier targets because they have the potential to be physically, logistically and even legally easier to take advantage of:


Who's probably going to be more drunk, the hot girl in the skirt or the chick in the business suit?

Who's more likely to have protection, the girl with the 3" purse or the woman with the 'battle bag'?

Who's going to be easier to lure to a more 'suitable' location, a drunk girl or a sober one?

What's clothes make it easier to fuck while still wearing them, a skirt/thong or pants?

As proven in this very thread, who is more likely to report a r_pe, a woman dressed like a whore or that broad in the suit from the first question?


A rapist knows the answer to all of the above.


Don't confuse the above with the statement "she deserved it" because that's not my point at all. My point is, r_pe, for the most part, is a crime of opportunity - the victims are not stalked for several days; they simply have "easy target" written on their foreheads in front of someone looking for just that.

Do women have a right to wear tight skirts and tiny tops? Thank the lord, they do - but people (not just women) have to be realistic and understand that while they may have the right to do something, there are people out there just waiting to take advantage of them when they do it. It's just a fact of life in modern America.

Hell, even a normal person, given the right circumstance, might do wrong. Take a laptop and lay it on your car seat. The odds are pretty good that your average honest citizen isn't going to smash your window and take it; even if your car is unlocked, it'll probably be there when you get back. But if your window is down...? Well, I hope you didn't have any child porn on it.

[ShooterMcGavin]

Alright, now she's being stupid.

She called me frequently yesterday, and like I said she let a little out in doses.

I told her to go to the cops and she wouldn't listen to me. She says, "calling the police would cause too much drama that I don't want to get into." She said the same thing about the hospital.

Here's why she's being stupid.

A) Like many of you said, the bar probably has security cameras. (by the way, I got the story mixed up. He didn't leave with her. He just took her into the bathroom and had his way with her, and she fled the bar and went back to campus)

B) She knows what he looks like

C) And strap in for this one kids. HER FRIEND KNOWS THE FRIEND OF THE GUY WHO DID IT, MAKING HIM EASY TO CATCH. In fact, she hasn't even told said friend about what happened.


She might be going home this weekend and I should be hanging out with her. Hopefully I can convince her to do something.

[wes mantooth]

She might be going home this weekend and I should be hanging out with her. Hopefully I can convince her to do something.

Good luck bro though she might not give it up that easily what with her just being ***** and all.

[ShooterMcGavin]

Good luck bro though she might not give it up that easily what with her just being ***** and all.

That's not what I meant you ass :fu4:

[stevenle]

So....we aren't going to get to see the pics she sent you before she went out????????

[ShooterMcGavin]

So....we aren't going to get to see the pics she sent you before she went out????????

Dunno about the rules on that.

Plus her brothers are O&A fans, possible Wackbaggers, and I don't want to reveal identities here. Besides, the point of the thread is to talk about what happened, not who it happened to.

[Sunsetspawn]

I told her to go to the cops and she wouldn't listen to me. She says, "calling the police would cause too much drama that I don't want to get into." She said the same thing about the hospital.


But it won't be dramatic at all nine months from now when she has to look at ol' rapist eyes when it's trying to breast feed.

Most of the girls I know have been ***** (insert joke about me having knitter tendancies here). Bottom line is, they were all in situations that even I wouldn't have been in. MartianVirus is right, you must be aware of your surroundings at all times. If I have to be in the wrong place at the wrong time for whatever reason, you can be certain I'll be with a little posse.

[stevenle]

Dunno about the rules on that.

Plus her brothers are O&A fans, possible Wackbaggers, and I don't want to reveal identities here. Besides, the point of the thread is to talk about what happened, not who it happened to.

So how about a PM, you can black out the face......


On the serious side, you don't have the training to deal with this. You need to try your best to get her to a professional. As long as you try your best to do that, you've done your part. The rest, she has to do on her own. The point isn't to catch they guy (as much as he should get a plunger up his ass). The point is to make sure she recovers from this the best that she can.

[wes mantooth]

If she won't got to the police then tell her brothers. At least the fucker will get a good ass-whuppin.

[Maynard K]

She really must go to the police with this, if not for her, for the other women he may rap* in the future. He obviously is a sick dude and might have done this many times before. He needs to have his face and information listed on the sexual offender website. Sorry to hear this happened, your being a great friend.


Oh and mods, very cool idea not to be able to post that word.

[tar_baby]

she asked for it

[Monstercloud]

Here's why she's being stupid.

A) Like many of you said, the bar probably has security cameras. (by the way, I got the story mixed up. He didn't leave with her. He just took her into the bathroom and had his way with her, and she fled the bar and went back to campus)

B) She knows what he looks like

C) And strap in for this one kids. HER FRIEND KNOWS THE FRIEND OF THE GUY WHO DID IT, MAKING HIM EASY TO CATCH. In fact, she hasn't even told said friend about what happened.


Eh, (Metaphoricly) fuck her then. I know it might be to harsh, but don't act like a free, ever-standing santuary for her. Sure, getting ***ed is a shitty thing to experience, but when it's this easy to catch the guy, the only drama that is being created is by herself. If it's for attention, pity, whatever, there's a point where you can call her a friend. If she's a-scared, try to go with her, and help her get through whatever "Drama" will follow, that's what a friend is supposed to be for.

And Jenkins pretty much hit the nail on the head in his post.

[GonzoRadio]

Alright, now she's being stupid.

She called me frequently yesterday, and like I said she let a little out in doses.

I told her to go to the cops and she wouldn't listen to me. She says, "calling the police would cause too much drama that I don't want to get into." She said the same thing about the hospital.

Here's why she's being stupid.

A) Like many of you said, the bar probably has security cameras. (by the way, I got the story mixed up. He didn't leave with her. He just took her into the bathroom and had his way with her, and she fled the bar and went back to campus)

B) She knows what he looks like

C) And strap in for this one kids. HER FRIEND KNOWS THE FRIEND OF THE GUY WHO DID IT, MAKING HIM EASY TO CATCH. In fact, she hasn't even told said friend about what happened.


She might be going home this weekend and I should be hanging out with her. Hopefully I can convince her to do something.


Dude I don't even know her and I want to punch her in the face.. I don't know how you're dealing with it, but i would have lost patience a long time ago. What the fuck.... she can EASILY prevent this from happening again.

i know what happened was traumatic and this is her way of "escaping" what happened.... but she needs to "man up" and get this cock sucker off the streets.

[Mommadeez4u]

By 'wanting it to go away' she is becoming the perpetual victim. Tell her (and this is the last thing I would try before dumping her as a friend) that unless she wants to spend the rest of her life being this guy's victim, she'll go to the police.