Suicide sucks for everyone else...

[NortonsGravyLeg]

I lost my dad on the 13th when he killed himself. I really had a good relationship with him and my whole family. My mom and him were always happy barring any dumb little things or normal marital fights they loved each other very much. He was a Vietnam vet, a former NYPD officer amongst other things he did with his life. He did things in life most people read about, sorry to use a stupid cliché but it's true. He was a loving father, a great leader and teacher. No matter what we said to him he would not put the bottle down and when pushed he pushed back that much harder. He always thought he was worthless no matter how much we told him otherwise or how many times I told him he was my hero. He felt that because there were no more battles to fight or chaos to keep him going that he was no good. He had a fucked up childhood and could never let those things his parents said to him go. His demons got the better of him and now we're left to pick up the pieces.
I know I'm throwing myself to the wolves on this board but I needed to vent this. I really miss him, even though I told him how I felt. He still won't be there when I get married in Sept or see my kids grow up. He won't be there to hold my mom at night or spend the later years of his life with her. He won't be there to tell anymore crazy stories of the old days or give me advice when I need it, or bust my balls when I do something stupid...Never for a moment think that suicide is the answer because it really sucks for the people left asking all the questions. Sorry to be so depressing but I needed to get this out.

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[Sam_Adams]

I'm sorry to hear that happened man. Sometimes people will be self-destructive for no reason that we can understand.

I was sure my brother would end up self-destructing growing up with all of the things he did to himself, but luckily he made it through it.

I can't imagine losing a parent and I feel for you. Hang in there and just make sure to not let depression get the better of you. You'll make it through man.

[ImAlrightSpider]

Sorry for your loss, friend. Don't worry about throwing yourself to the wolves here. We may be a bunch of asses, but most of us are asses who would prefer to help rather than hurt one of our own.

Thoughts and prayers (sincerely, not Danza).

[highway23]

Ain't no wolves on this site that would blast him or you man, suicide is shitty.

sorry to hear man...sometimes people just can't keep it in anymore and don't know what else to do...

it sucks...take care of yourself and your family

[JoeyDVDZ]

an uncle of mine committed suicide when I was a little kid. It's true, the family and friends they leave behind suffer the fallout. I'm very sorry for your loss, man.

[CM Mark]

That sucks man. Chin up, and you'll get through it.

[sued]

Wow, I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I wish I had something profound to offer you but I don't. I guess you have to let yourself be ok with whatever anger you might have right now. It doesnt mean you dont love him just that you are pissed. You have a good reason.

My husbands father died when he was 20 so he is always missed at milestones. When we got married we had a single candle near us as a reminder. We named our daughter after him (First initial, Spiro would be a bad name for a girl) and we keep pictures around and talk about him to the kids.

[Big Dick Mcgee]

I am so sorry for your family. Reading your post made me cry and really think about my life and my family right now. My wife was admitted to the psychiatric floor on Sunday night for haveing suicidal thoughts. I don't know what I would do if something happened to her. Just try to remember the good times with him and try to always honor his memorey. Good luck and my prayers are with you.

[CM Mark]

I am so sorry for your family. Reading your post made me cry and really think about my life and my family right now. My wife was admitted to the psychiatric floor on Sunday night for haveing suicidal thoughts. I don't know what I would do if something happened to her. Just try to remember the good times with him and try to always honor his memorey. Good luck and my prayers are with you.
I SO want to make a comment, but it would be inappropriate. So I'll just add a hope all goes well with your wife

[BaLZaC~308]

Sorry for your loss, friend. Don't worry about throwing yourself to the wolves here. We may be a bunch of asses, but most of us are asses who would prefer to help rather than hurt one of our own.

Thoughts and prayers (sincerely, not Danza).


seriously for a board of assholes WE are very compassionate.


sorry about your loss man, be there for your mother

[DoucheMeister]

Sorry for your loss. Wish there was more I can say.

[martianvirus]

sorry to hear that.


It does sucks for everyone, it's the reason i'm still here. I just can't put people i know through that.

[LAX]

Sorry for your loss...My prayers are with you and your family

[NortonsHeiny]

How awful for you Gravy. Being a cop gives you such easy access in those low times. One of the most important people in my life killed himself on March 16, 2003. I was with him everyday. He was my boyfriends best friend and partner and I still think about him every single day about a million times a day. The only advice I have for you that worked for me was to stop trying to figure out the why and the did I fail somehow (even though that is very normal to do) etc. and just remember him for the amazing man he was. You can pm anytime you need to vent. Sorry for your loss.....

[frankjg]

wow, that totally blows.. so sorry for your loss

[wes mantooth]

Sorry for your loss.

[Myhairygrundle]

Prayers for your during this awful time. Thanks for sharing with us...at least know that you and your family are in our prayers.

It will be hard, but I'm sure you can step-up and get your mom through this.

[CM Mark]

It does sucks for everyone, it's the reason i'm still here. I just can't put people i know through that.
x2 honestly

[Angelfuck]

depression fucking sucks, there's nothing you can do to make them feel better about themselves, the thoughts are always there. what he did was very selfish, but you can't blame him, it sounds like he was a good man, I wish I could trade my worthless non-existant father so you could have yours back. always treasure the time you had with him. sorry for your loss man

[Carolina Kike]

I had an uncle like that. We tried for many years to help him. Only had two uncles really, and he set his house on fire and hung himself. I was absolutely crushed. He was the reason I got into science.

Keep your head up, and stay strong for everyone that you can. Realize that it was the end result of an illness, not a selfish act. I was mad at my uncle for years until I really began to study psychology, and I realized how much he suffered. Separate the man from the illness, and remember him for all of his greatness, and you'll be alright.

[Dani75]

One of my old friend's dad committed suicide, in front of my friend's mom. Sucks! I really feel for you.

[BAGFASHER]

I'm sorry for your loss. I had a close friend take his life over two years ago and I am still messed up by it. He was an alcoholic too. I have been sober for six years and attend AA and Al-Anon meetings frequently. Give it a try and this to will pass. Peace.

[CaraC]

wow I am so sorry to hear of your loss... I agree that suicide is awful for everyone that loves that person, but unfortunately when the depression takes over its so hard that they don't even think about anyone else... Keep in mind that I am sure your father loves you dearly and didn't want you to suffer from this, his love for you was just overridden by the fact that he didnt want to suffer anymore... Things will get better with time... if you ever need anything at all please dont hesitate to get a hold of me any way you can... you might not know me well, but sometimes its easier to vent to people you dont know... Take care of yourself, and again, I'm sorry to hear of your loss

[Deadhead]

My step-brother took his life a couple of years ago.

It sucked for everyone else around (except for the one he wanted to hurt the most.)

Suicide sucks.

Prayers for you and yours.

[Radioguy]

I want to echo the condolences. :(

It sounds like you and your family made his life better. There are some things beyond anyone's control, but from what you said, I'm sure he'd be proud of you and grateful for the family he had. :)

wow I am so sorry to hear of your loss... I agree that suicide is awful for everyone that loves that person, but unfortunately when the depression takes over its so hard that they don't even think about anyone else... Keep in mind that I am sure your father loves you dearly and didn't want you to suffer from this, his love for you was just overridden by the fact that he didnt want to suffer anymore... Things will get better with time... if you ever need anything at all please dont hesitate to get a hold of me any way you can... you might not know me well, but sometimes its easier to vent to people you dont know... Take care of yourself, and again, I'm sorry to hear of your loss

I agree.

In general, it's important for EVERYONE to remember this. So many people blame those who took their own lives, and carry that anger throughout their lives. It's hard to accept sometimes, but they probably did realize how you'd feel, and that kept them from doing it even earlier. Pain is an overpowering thing. Succumbing to it isn't an act of cowardice. Either way, they wouldn't wan't you to carry that anger with you. Seeking help to realize that and deal with it is the way to go.