Friends?? (A Spin-Off of Dating??)

[LiddyRules]

Where do people meet friends?

Club/bar scenes seem to be exclusively for hookups. It's hard to imagine going to a happening spot on a Friday night and awkwardly courting someone (of either sex) just to be an acquaintance.

Some people suggest work, but it doesn't work when the people you work with are such dullards that overhearing their conversation makes you realize how useless all humans are. Then you realize the type of people you'd "like" are also pathetic homebodies and you don't know how to find them. And if you could, you couldn't make the first move and they wouldn't.

So how does one actively seek out a "friend?"

[wes mantooth]

I don't know anymore. I haven't made a new friend in 15 years.

[Absolutely]

Same here, I haven't made new friends in years.
I still hang out with people I went to grade school with and a few from high school. I went to college 4 years ago with the goal of making new friends, but everyone I was friends with went to the same college as me so we continued to hang out still. And I met nobody really.

Our "group" are kind of assholes, so whenever someone who doesn't know us hangs out with us they usually hate us.

I don't know how you Seek a friend, I think it just happens. School is the top place I think, after that I don't know. Once you get married it appears as though you don't get to have/ don't need friends anyway.

[Chino Kapone]

easiet way at a bar is to just start a game of pool or darts. it sucks to hit on females at the bars because every guy is trying to do the same thing. go out wednesday or thursday nights instead of Fri/Sat nights. there tends to be a different type of crowd on those nights.

who cares if the people you work with suck. hang out with them because they probably hang out with some cool people and not just their own bland sevles. i have met a ton of cool people through work and its not jsut the people i work with but their friends as well.

also, go out by yourself every once in a while. it forces you to talk to other people and its waaaaaaaaaaaaay easier to talk to women when you dont have a team of sausages and wingmen hanging beside you. it has worked for me a few times.

[Angelfuck]

other friends
I guess when you get older your suppose to do shit, take classes or go to the gym and meet people, fuck that :p just go an o&a event :D

[DonTheTrucker]

just go an o&a event :D


QFT

[Chino Kapone]

fuck that :p just go an o&a event :D

but what do you do if you want to meet women?

[Angelfuck]

hah
the gym? i dunno.. a supermarket? get a dog?

[LiddyRules]

hah
the gym? Yes, the gym. So I'll either look like the weird pudgy guy hitting (not intentionally) on women or the gay pudgy guy hitting (not intentionally) on guys.

i dunno.. a supermarket? I can't imagine "You like eggplant? I like eggplant too! Let's be friends." working

get a dog? If my apartment complex would allow it and I trusted my schedule/stability, I would have a dog by now.

[Chino Kapone]

Yes, the gym. So I'll either look like the weird pudgy guy hitting (not intentionally) on women or the gay pudgy guy hitting (not intentionally) on guys.




thats why you go to the gym, so eventually you are the weird studly guy hitting on the girls at the gym.

[LiddyRules]

thats why you go to the gym, so eventually you are the weird studly guy hitting on the girls at the gym. But the point was not romance, but platonic relationships. So the entire "hitting on" aspect goes against why this thread was created.

[wes mantooth]

If you try to just be friends with a girl you'll most likely wind up fucking them anyway. When I was single and tried to just be friends with girls that's usually what happened. Not putting pressure on yourself or the girl works wonders for getting trim. Learn self-hypnosis.

[Ant's_rapier]

I don't have any friends.

[DonTheTrucker]

I can't imagine "You like eggplant? I like eggplant too! Let's be friends." working


I can't be friends with a woman who likes eggplant.

[wes mantooth]

I can't be friends with a woman who likes eggplant.



:icon_lol:

[LiddyRules]

I can't be friends with a woman who likes eggplant. Damn, DonTheTrucker gets the point. I didn't even think of that.

[Cunt Smasher]

I don't like most people,plus I stay pretty busy with the friends I have.Maybe it's weird but my friends are compartmentalized.I got one friend,we build/run demolition derby cars,he doesn't know my other friends.My piercing/tattoo guy I hang out with in his shop,he's also a decent guitar player and ex-martial arts guy,so we go to fights,concerts and party.Work friends I only see at work even though a couple of them I like alot.Got lots of relatives and in-laws that invite me to things also.Mainly my plate is kinda full,and really,most people I meet are assholes or have some ulterior motive.If I lived on the East coast like a majority of wackbaggers seem to,I would be a busy fucker tho'.

[HummerTuesdays]

I have one friend that I met because we both has season tickets to the NJ roller hockey team, another friend I met because she has season tickets next to the seats I used to buy for NJ Devils games. I have a couple friends I met at school, and I met some people at a local bar. Just be approachable & get out of the house & you'll meet people.

[VMS]

I was a band geek in high school and college. To this day, 90% of my friends are former tuba players from my high school or Virginia Tech, or became friends through those people.

My problem isn't making friends. I make friends really easily. I just have lost whatever it takes to build that friendship beyond a friendly, "hey, howya doin'?" thing. It doesn't help that I'm the boss at work, which makes being friends with my employees REALLY hard. Even my hard workers that I trust I can't get too close to, otherwise it'll fuck shit up.

My high school friends are all married with kids. They're fun to hang out with once every couple of months, but are otherwise a pain in the ass. Getting Cheetos stains off my white-colored couches (no Anthony booger couches, AFAIK) is just a pain.

My college buddies are all still living in Blacksburg, so they're a 5 hour drive away for me.

My one single high school friend is, God love him, such a total zero that I go out to dinner with him once every couple of months to keep up the friendship, but he drives me fucking nuts. Last time we went out to the local bar together, he wore a T-shirts from a comic book convention. Good guy, but he's the anti-wingman.

I don't know. Find a fucking hobby. Even if it's comic books, I guess. Porn and O&A can't be the ONLY things you enjoy after all, can they? If so, feel free to eat a bullet. There's a shitload more to life than that.

If you like sports, as Hummer alludes to, go to the games if you can afford it. The people who have season tix around my season tix to Tech football games tried to set me up with their daughter for Christ's sake! Downside to being a "big" donor, relative to my age: all the people I sit with at football games are 60+.

They've got conventions for everything, dude. Just be on the lookout for them. O&A conventions and porn conventions are cool, but there has to be something else you're interested in. Go out and find the people involved, and hang with them.

[Monstercloud]

but what do you do if you want to meet women?

Go to a Ron and Fez event..

[VMS]

Go to a Ron and Fez event..

Well, of course. Chicks always dig the gay guys.
:action-sm

[WMB]

Here. I've made quite a few friends on wackbag. I like to see where people are from and if they're local to me, I make an effort to meet them. If you're a wackbagger then chances are you're a sick twisted fuck just like me and we should get along just fine.

[HummerTuesdays]

Good call, WMB. I also have freinds from WB, but unfortunately very few of them live near me. It does make for good road trips, though.

[DoughBoy]

Gotta be the internets.

People will trash 'e-dating' or online love matches but I've never seen couples who know more about eachother, communicate better, and have more healthy relationships than those who have met through online methods.

So often relationships people put too much emphasis on the physical aspect and forget all of the other aspects of it. IMO, it is much nicer and more important to actually GET TO KNOW your significant other.

[Rich W.]

Friends "with benefits" has its advantages too...

Christ this country is sexually repressed...

[magnus420]

I don't have any friends.

only internet friends, right?

[AJellyDonut]

I'm really bad at making new friends because I hate most people I meet. I am also a very lazy individual. That's where you creeps come in. It's kind of like talking to myself, but on a forum where little I say matters and I'm usually ignored. It's my little chunk of paradise.