Guilt breaking up with girls

[abudabit]

Anyone else find themselves a wreck when they have to break up with women? I feel like dog shit, it's so much better when you get dumped instead. She just emailed me a sweet email. :( I think this is why some guys prefer cunty women.

[Chino Kapone]

Just break up with her via text...

[BusyChild04]

Out of being a gentleman I always do break ups in person. Which sucks because you see them cry (and sometimes beg). But yes...it does kill me. I was once with a girl for 4 months without really wanting to be with her. I was just scared of hurting her. But hey...better to be honest and not waste the poor girl's time. I don't like it when they get really, really attached. If they're not attached, it makes things easier at the end. Which is why I'm scared about my current girlfriend. She's extremely attached...and is kinda my fault.

[WhiskeyWhispers]

I would wait until she's blowing you, then after you paste her face, hand her a tissue that says "It's Over" on it.

[mikeybot]

I've had that happen anytime when I've wanted to go. It's a bitch to pull off, but it's better than sticking with them and being miserable.

[DanaReevesLungs]

Anyone else find themselves a wreck when they have to break up with women? I feel like dog shit, it's so much better when you get dumped instead. She just emailed me a sweet email. :( I think this is why some guys prefer cunty women.

Pussy

[Lunchbox420]

I prefer the OJ method...cut and run. el oh el

[Stig]

Maybe you should just stay with her and resent her for your entire life. Works for lots of guys.

[abudabit]

The deed is done. :drunk: Time to Glenn Dandy the night away.

[ruckstande]

The deed is done. :drunk: Time to Glenn Dandy the night away.

Where are the pics?

[abudabit]

Where are the pics?

Hope she doesn't get mad that I'm posting these.

http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y131/koosdiedoos/fatty.jpg

No pics for you!

[VersionX]

Eerie I ran across this threat today, as I'm going through this exact issue right now. Me and my girl have been together since last May and have been living together since this May. I just find myself much more interested now in going out and having fun with my single friends than I do with her. I do love the girl, but it's safe to say I'm not in love with her anymore.

I feel like complete ass about all this, as I hate hurting her. I'm torn between cutting it off and being single for awhile vs. staying with her and seeing if this feeling of wanting to be single fades.

[abudabit]

Ouch, over 1 year.

Are there maybe some issues in the relationship that if they were addressed would convince you to stay? Maybe you can bluntly (but intelligently) tell her about them and let her know it's important that these things get fixed.

That way if they do get fixed, the relationship is better off. If they don't, hey you got an excuse.

[Chino Kapone]

I doubt it is as simple as fixing issues... Its more about not having to come home to a bitching woman and would rather bring some new pussy home. At least thats what it would be for me. :D

[abudabit]

I doubt it is as simple as fixing issues... Its more about not having to come home to a bitching woman and would rather bring some new pussy home. At least thats what it would be for me. :D

Well the bitching would be an issue.

Also the 'no threesomes' rule could be an issue. :action-sm

[Chino Kapone]

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Also the 'no threesomes' rule could be an issue. :action-sm


Now i understand why you broke up with this chick. :yesyesyes:

[WoodenPlank]

I dumped my ex after she went batshit crazy on me - then had to deal with weeks of getting text messages and voicemails from her saying she was going to kill herself.

[kloraferm]

Not a big fan of breakups personally, but the last one I felt really bad about was when I was in the 8th grade. I've had a few others since then that were a drag, but I was able to manage.

[Awful Me]

I know a guy who told his wife he wanted a divorce on AIM.


by the way, the cure for the guilt is putting your dick in another girls mouth.

[Death Metal Moe]

::Tough Internet Guy:: That's why I love 'em and leave 'em. I fuck 'em, wipe me dick off in their hair and tell them we're done. ::Tough Internet Guy::

Come on guys, not one of you talks to women like this or treats them like this. The guy's got an issue, save the macho bullshit.

[tourettesguy]

I'm going through a divorce and it really sucks.

What sucks most is that she just had our baby, and THEN I realized that I don't want to be married.

I hate myself for leaving, but I wasn't happy. Better to do it while the kid isn't aware I guess.

I live at my moms house right now. I cry every day. Keep your head up, it could be worse.

[B54]

I'm not one for confrontation ...

I just dip. I hate when people try to stop me doing something when my mind is made up ... it's an annoying waste of time.

[THE FEZ MAN]

i only felt bad about one or two, the one i dumped for my wife, and a fat girl that i fucked just to fuck, she tried to hit me with the "im pregnant" horse shit i was like ummmmm no way fatty, not only was i wearing a rubber i was so drunk that i never came

[Cunt Smasher]

Out of being a gentleman I always do break ups in person. Which sucks because you see them cry (and sometimes beg). But yes...it does kill me. I was once with a girl for 4 months without really wanting to be with her. I was just scared of hurting her. But hey...better to be honest and not waste the poor girl's time. I don't like it when they get really, really attached. If they're not attached, it makes things easier at the end. Which is why I'm scared about my current girlfriend. She's extremely attached...and is kinda my fault.

6 months here.5 of which I couldn't stand her.I was a coward.Better to get it over with,just be honest and do it face to face.Still sucks,tho'.

[poppAwoody]

get a rebound girl, that'll make you feel better, nice and 17 too :)

[abudabit]

get a rebound girl, that'll make you feel better, nice and 17 too :)

I'm not feeling bad about losing the girl, I'm feeling guilty about dumping her. Although rebound always good.

[VersionX]

Ouch, over 1 year.

Are there maybe some issues in the relationship that if they were addressed would convince you to stay? Maybe you can bluntly (but intelligently) tell her about them and let her know it's important that these things get fixed.

That way if they do get fixed, the relationship is better off. If they don't, hey you got an excuse.

That's the sad part, really. The relationship, at least our interpersonal dynamic, isn't an issue at all. She treats me really well, very rarely gets all girly-emotional or crazy, if ever, and really is just in love with me and wants to spend time with me.

Almost every since we moved in together (not to mention when I started having numerous options come to me due to my career/being a young unmarried guy in Williamsport, PA) I just haven't been feeling it like I used to. The best way I can describe it, like I said above, is I enjoy my free time and when I'm out with my single friends more than I do with her. It's nice to have someone to come home to, of course, but even my buddies notice it. They tell me I pretty much act single when I'm out anyway, so the best thing to do is end it.

Also sucks cause the g/f is smokin' hot and I don't think I could do any better than her anyway. Blond, like 115 lbs, tones, B tits, ass for days...gah. Why am I willing to give this up?

ps: aware this thread/post is useless without pics. Will rectify that later on.

[Turtle]

A few girls broke my heart when I was a young lad. But I have never been dumped by a chick since High School. There were a few times when we both agreed to move on, always face to face. That's the only way to do it, face to face.

[Sidekick Dave]

It depends on the woman. If she is a cunt like one of the last girls that I dated (Kansas Alum, hates Blacks and Gays), then let her go. If she really wants me back, then she can figure out how to try and win me back.
In this case, I would say that if you feel as if the relationship is going nowhere then yes, I would softly let her down. Maybe you guys just need a break to see other people. I don't think that there is any harm in telling her that. But myself, I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater. If you feel guilty, it's because maybe you're not seeing a real good reason to break up. Maybe what I would do, is talk to her about your discrepencies or whatever reservations that you might be having in this relationship. Just kicking her to the curb isn't the right answer. My 0.02.

[B54]

It depends on the woman. If she is a cunt like one of the last girls that I dated (Kansas Alum, hates Blacks and Gays), then let her go. If she really wants me back, then she can figure out how to try and win me back. *** In this case, I would say that if you feel as if the relationship is going nowhere then yes, I would softly let her down. Maybe you guys just need a break to see other people. I don't think that there is any harm in telling her that. But myself, I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater. If you feel guilty, it's because maybe you're not seeing a real good reason to break up. Maybe what I would do, is talk to her about your discrepencies or whatever reservations that you might be having in this relationship. Just kicking her to the curb isn't the right answer. My 0.02.

Shut up. You can't give any advice after your love thread.

[VMS]

I'm a complete fucking wuss about that. Shit, I had a one-nighter last month where I'm pretty sure the girl didn't want a real relationship and I STILL feel bad about not calling her. Not that I want a relationship with a girl carrying that much baggage, but I feel bad because not calling her might make her feel I think she's a whore.

Which she is, but that's beside the point.

Worst was breaking up with this one girl in college. I dropped her after a month because I just felt nothing for her, but she was fucking NUTS about me. As in, 6 years later at a reunion she was hanging off of me. In front of her husband. That she's just married a month earlier.

Empathy, in the end, can be a good thing, even if it makes you feel like shit. Good empathy gets you the chicks in the first fucking place.

[Ziti Lo Mein]

Best not break up with her through text or email! If you feel guilty, you should feel especially guilty if you do it that way. You make yourself look like a total jerk who is too much of a pussy to break up with her to her face. If its over its over, but doing it through text or through some other means will make it x5 worse for the girl.

[B54]

Best not break up with her through text or email! If you feel guilty, you should feel especially guilty if you do it that way. You make yourself look like a total jerk who is too much of a pussy to break up with her to her face. If its over its over, but doing it through text or through some other means will make it x5 worse for the girl.

But the tears and suffering are my fuel.

[Chino Kapone]

But the tears and suffering are my fuel.


Speaking of fuel..... thats a good reason to break up with chick right now. I like to mainly date women within 5 miles of my zip code... other than that i consider it a long distance relationship.

[DanaReevesLungs]

Speaking of fuel..... thats a good reason to break up with chick right now. I like to mainly date women within 5 miles of my zip code... other than that i consider it a long distance relationship.

Be a man...get a moped. ;)

[stillbornstew]

Best not break up with her through text or email! If you feel guilty, you should feel especially guilty if you do it that way. You make yourself look like a total jerk who is too much of a pussy to break up with her to her face. If its over its over, but doing it through text or through some other means will make it x5 worse for the girl.
OOF!!! broke up w/ a girl when she called me, i wanted to meet her in person and tell her, but i just physically couldn't be around her anymore. i think we'd been dating for about 3 months. i found out from her friends she was really upset about the break up. i'm a dick, i know. but ordinarily, i do the break in person, best to be man about it. but i generally don't get to feeling all guilty about breaking up. shit doesn't work sometimes, thats life.


did anyone ever get to listen to these gems. the boys played them back on NEW, but RnF first brought them on air. it's creepy; some of the calls gave me chills: http://scherle.com/psychoexgirlfriend/voicemails.html

[CougarHunter]

(Kansas Alum, hates Blacks and Gays)

Sounds like my kind of girl.

[kloraferm]

I'm so fucking glad I'm single.

[Hysterectomeal]

But myself, I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

THAT'S what Regular Joe says.:)

[DocSavage]

Eerie I ran across this threat today, as I'm going through this exact issue right now. Me and my girl have been together since last May and have been living together since this May. I just find myself much more interested now in going out and having fun with my single friends than I do with her. I do love the girl, but it's safe to say I'm not in love with her anymore.

I feel like complete ass about all this, as I hate hurting her. I'm torn between cutting it off and being single for awhile vs. staying with her and seeing if this feeling of wanting to be single fades.


ooofff...hard when you are living together. Been there.

[Ziti Lo Mein]

I never heard that psycho-girlfriend-thing. Oh-my. She's sooo crazy. Really brings the gender down when something like that exists in this world. She sounds like she thinks she has some kind of power over him - and in relationships thats somewhat true. Some people DO use the other person's love as a manipulation tool. That psycho just doesn't realize how little her power over that guy is, so she's having a temper tantrum like a baby.

People like THAT I'd break up with over the phone, if only for the lulzy voice messages.

[VersionX]

To give an update on what probably no one was waiting for an update on, I broke up with my live-in girlfriend late last night. We were both starting to grow distant from the uncertainty and unrest that was being caused, so I decided to have us part while we were still on good terms.

She took it well, didn't throw anything and I'm moving in with my friend next week. Kinda sad it's over, but I'm sure it was what I needed.

Thanks for all of you who posted here. Helped me out when I was losing my mind over this.