Couple Finally Reveals Child's Gender, Five Years After Birth

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Couple Finally Reveals Child's Gender, Five Years After Birth

By Piper Weiss, Shine Staff | Parenting – Fri, Jan 20, 2012 8:05 PM EST


It's a boy! And he's five. Beck Laxton, 46, and partner Kieran Cooper, 44, have spent half the decade concealing the gender of their son, Sasha.

"I wanted to avoid all that stereotyping," Laxton said in an interview with the Cambridge News. "Stereotypes seem fundamentally stupid. Why would you want to slot people into boxes?"

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Laxton, a UK-based web editor, and her partner, Cooper, decided to keep Sasha's sex a secret when he was still in the womb. The birth announcement stated the gender-neutral name of their child, but skipped the big reveal. Up until recently, the couple only told a few close friends and family members that Sasha was a boy and managed to keep the rest of the world in the dark. But now that he's starting school the secret's out.

For years, Becks has been referring to her child, the youngest of three, as "the infant" on her personal blog. But guarding the public from her son's gender was only part of her quest to let her kid just be a kid.

Sasha dresses in clothes he likes -- be it a hand-me-downs from his sister or his brother. The big no-no's are hyper-masculine outfits like skull-print shirts and cargo pants. In one photo, sent to friends and family, Sasha's dressed in a shiny pink girl's swimsuit. "Children like sparkly things," says Beck. "And if someone thought Sasha was a girl because he was wearing a pink swimming costume, then what effect would that have? "

Sasha's also not short on dolls, though Barbie is also off limits. "She's banned because she's horrible," Laxton says in the Cambridge interview.

On a macro level she hopes her son sets an example for other parents and makes them reconsider buying their own sons trucks or forcing their daughters into tights. She's seen how those consumer trappings affect how and who kids play with in the sandbox.

See how one preschool is fighting gender bias in the classroom

But the sandbox is just a precursor to the classroom. When Sasha turned five and headed to school, Laxton was forced to make her son's sex public. That meant Sasha would have to get used to being a boy in the eyes of his peers. Still, his mom is intervening. While the school requires different uniforms for boys and girls, Sasha wears a girl's blouse with his pants.

"I don't think I'd do it if I thought it was going to make him unhappy, but at the moment he's not really bothered either way. We haven't had any difficult scenarios yet."

Last year another couple, Kathy Witterick, 38, and David Stocker, 39, of Toronto made a similar decision when they had their baby, Storm. At the time, certain psychiatric experts voiced concern over their decision. "To have a sense of self and personal identity is a critical part of normal healthy development," Dr. Eugene Beresin, director of training in child and adolescent psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital, told ABC News. "This blocks that and sets the child up for bullying, scapegoating and marginalization."

But as parents well know, bullying is hard for any child to avoid. It's more important to raise someone who's confident enough in himself to overcome peer pressure. It's also important to have his parents have his back (remember the mom who defended her son's choice in a Halloween costume?) Maybe Sasha's early years will be character building, maybe he'll have a higher emotional quotient being raised with dual perspectives on gender. Or the reverse could be true: Sasha may have less of a formed identity because of his upbringing, and feel angry at his mom for dressing him in flowery shirts and telling the world about it. Then again, maybe he'll get over it.

As for Laxton, she says she's open to her son pursing any career or sexual preference he chooses as he matures. "As long as he has good relationships and good friends," she says, "then nothing else matters, does it?"

http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/co...childs-gender-five-years-birth-180300388.html
Fucking kid is doomed anyway...
 

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Good. The kid will grow up all kinds of fucked up and those liberal stupid genes will die off. It's a win-win for the world because it takes 2 liberals... turns them into one... and then none.
 

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Some people really don't deserve to have kids.
 

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What is up with dykes being in a constant state of near militant behavior when it comes to gender roles???? We get it. You wish you had a dick and love to eat box. Why doom a child with your selfish pursuits?
 

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What is up with dykes being in a constant state of near militant behavior when it comes to gender roles???? We get it. You wish you had a dick and love to eat box. Why doom a child with your selfish pursuits?
Because they're selfish, attention craving cunts. They didn't do this to make their kid better somehow, they did it for the attention.
 

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Well at least they are being eviscerated on the comments section. To know your hated is usually a punishment that can't be ignored.
 

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I never agree with those people who say gay couples shouldn't be allowed to adopt kids but maybe they have a point after all....

I really there's a follow up story about 15 years down the road about how he hates his dyke moms and became a skinhead or something.
 

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Fuck tolerance. People like that should just be put on an iceberg like old Eskimos.
 

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Ideologues selfishly experimenting on another human.
 

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Well at least they are being eviscerated on the comments section. To know your hated is usually a punishment that can't be ignored.
Yeah but hatred on comments sections generally make the haters look like narrow minded idiots.

Ideologues selfishly experimenting on another human.
But wouldn't you love to psychologically experiment on another human being? I would.
 

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Just when you thought they would never get back in the news again...

That's the great thing about what they did. When all the attention from not revealing the child's gender dried up, they could just reveal it. Instant attention.
 

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I wish they would have come out with some crazy non-sensical term for their son's gender. "Why Sasha's a Quaggiloo!"
 

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I never agree with those people who say gay couples shouldn't be allowed to adopt kids but maybe they have a point after all....
Beck's partner's name is Kieran. I've known a few Kierans and they were all dudes, so I'm pretty sure this is a straight couple. Although no amount of google fu has turned up this "partner."

Something's amiss here.
 

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My favorite line from these idiots is the part about "The big no-no's are hyper-masculine outfits like skull-print shirts and cargo pants."

So in other words, if the kid WANTED to express his masculinity, that was a bad thing? Fucking bitches deserve anything bad that's coming down the road for them.
 

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My favorite line from these idiots is the part about "The big no-no's are hyper-masculine outfits like skull-print shirts and cargo pants."

So in other words, if the kid WANTED to express his masculinity, that was a bad thing? Fucking bitches deserve anything bad that's coming down the road for them.
To be fair, Barbie was a no no as well.

That being said, I hate this cunt.
 
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From the comments:

I raised my kid to be Species neutral. I tried to avoid all that species bias. When it was 5 I decided to tell it that it was Human. It however chose a different path and decided it was a Bald Eagle. Needless to say the first leap off of a high perch ended my experiment.
 

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My favorite line from these idiots is the part about "The big no-no's are hyper-masculine outfits like skull-print shirts and cargo pants."

So in other words, if the kid WANTED to express his masculinity, that was a bad thing? Fucking bitches deserve anything bad that's coming down the road for them.
To be fair, Barbie was a no no as well.

That being said, I hate this cunt.
These cunts sound just like the assholes who won't let their daughters play sports and won't let their sons learn how to sew. They're an inverted version of the stereotypical 1950s parents who force their children to conform to prevailing social norms. Instead of letting the kid find his way, they tried to keep him gender neutral by inhabiting his behavior. They basically said, "This is your role. Do not step out of this little box we have defined for you." The irony is infuriating. Their intent (beyond their need for attention) was very new age but their approach was very socially conservative. Does anyone else see this?
 

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These cunts sound just like the assholes who won't let their daughters play sports and won't let their sons learn how to sew. They're an inverted version of the stereotypical 1950s parents who force their children to conform to prevailing social norms. Instead of letting the kid find his way, they tried to keep him gender neutral by inhabiting his behavior. They basically said, "This is your role. Do not step out of this little box we have defined for you." The irony is infuriating. Their intent (beyond their need for attention) was very new age but their approach was very socially conservative. Does anyone else see this?
You're absolutely right. They did the same pigeon-holing that would have been done in the 50's, just in reverse. They placed an artificial prohibition on any overt display of sexual orientation, to the point where this poor kid won't know what the fuck he/she is.