FU - Mom

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I have put up with a lot of shit from my mother, but today it all came to an end. My mother demanded that I cash in a life insurance policy that had been in my name since I was 18 and give her the money because SHE had taken out the policy and paid for it. Okay, no problem I have plenty of life insurance so I agree to do the paperwork and give her the cash value ($578).

Over the course of the past two weeks the paperwork arrives so that I can request the check. Apparently I wasn't moving fast enough to get her the money, so she calls and starts yelling at me like I'm 12 years old. I hang up the phone before she can complete her sentence. She calls back and 'click' I hang up on her. I figure let her cool off. Does she? No. She calls my wife at work and begins to berate her about the money and my "attitude". My wife trying to keep the peace offers to right her a check on the spot out of our own account for $600 and drop it in the mail. She declines and insinuates that the cash value is much higher then what we are telling her and she wants the check endorsed over to her along with all the paperwork. She also threatens "I already have taken two kids out of the will, I can make it three". My wife calmly tells her to piss off.

I lose my fucking mind when I find out what she had said to my wife. I told her to fuck off, and she could take the will she seems to think is her lynch pin to control the family and shove it. A little background on her.....she has written everybody out of the will but her blood daughter and her two blood grandchildren. Her step kids, step grand kids have all been taken out for "personal reasons". Me being adopted was the last none blood relative to inherit anything. So she seizes the opportunity to toss me off the will - Not a fuck was given, of course.

I found out that she wants the money to pay for her daughter (my step sister) to fly to California. This being the same daughter that she bails out of jail, pays for rehab, pays rent for, and had loaned thousands of dollars to and never receives a dime in return.

Fuck them all. Even my nephews, who know they are going to hit a mini-jackpot when grandma kicks the bucket have decided to "stay out of it".

Sorry, venting. This woman is no different then Opie's mom. With the exception that while the rest of us got cheap clothes, cheap shoes and were shown the door at 18 - her daughter got the best of everything and it carried over to her grand kids. While dad's blood grand kids got NOTHING from her outside of a couple bucks at graduation.

So FU, mom. Don't get sick. Remember how you said you would never go to a nursing home?? You only have your shithead drug addict daughter to take care of you now. She will dump your ass in a home as fast as she can, but only after she has pawned everything she can get her hands on.

Enjoy it. Happy?
 

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#2
How many assets can you possibly stand to inherit if she's making you cash in a life insurance policy for $600? It doesn't sound like that will is all that valuable.
 

THE FEZ MAN

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eh mine swung a wine bottle at me when i confronted her about her spending habits after my dad died. now i just avoid her
 

weeniewawa

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that sounds exactly like my ex wife and her family

her parents were self employed, they owned a meth lab.

her brother partook in his own bathtub meth and killed himself

her mom only worked part of the year and would buy a bunch of crap like beanie babies and cheap collector junk to get rich with, then sell all of it at yard sales when her unemployment ran out.

her dad never worked anything but under the table so he had no social security to fall back on.

her mom was actually going to divorce him because of his not being able to take care of her in her golden years.

didn't work out tho as she dropped dead

good luck with your family

I am glad I am divorced
 

Motor Head

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How many assets can you possibly stand to inherit if she's making you cash in a life insurance policy for $600? It doesn't sound like that will is all that valuable.
Trust me. If she was a millionaire, a matter of $50 would be grounds for war. She didn't talk to my brother for 3 years because my dad gave him $500 for rent and he took to long (in her opinion) to pay it back.
 

LZMF1

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#6
the last time my mother spoke to me about her will i requested that she leave my name off of it. i told her she owes me nothing and hung up on her.
 

Sinn Fein

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#7
Recent events have ensured that any nonsense with my parents is going to be my sister's problem, not mine. I feel relieved.
 

gleet

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#9
I love my old Ma and she loves me.
 

Creasy Bear

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#10
My stupid ass brother and sister got strung along and kissed my horrid grandmother's ass for upwards of thirty years based upon the promise of "the inheritance". My grandmother threatened to cut me out of the will if I didn't behave to her standards and bend to her will when I was 17 years old... I told her to get exactly fucked, and that was that... I was free and clear of her bullshit for ever after.

My grandmother made up a cock and bull story about how she had been holding a huge pile of Pfizer stock that my grandfather had supposedly bought back in the 1930's. She told that whopper for so long that she probably half believed it herself.

The look on my stupid bother's and sister's faces when the old bat finally croaked and they found out she had left behind enough money to plant her carcass, and maybe order a #4 off the McDonald's menu beyond that... priceless.
 

DanaReevesLungs

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I told my mom the day after my dad died all I wanted when she croaked was his flag for serving in the Air Force. She tries to hold it over my head that I'm this ungrateful bastard, but I couldn't give half a fuck. Woman went through his pension in 6 months. What he worked 24 years for she gambled, spent and drank in 6 months. Fucking despicable.

She texts me once a month that she hasn't seen my son in forever. I tell her repeatedly that it's not my problem.
 

LiddyRules

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I'm jealous of people with truly horrible mother stories. Because my mother did try her best, she just wasn't...good. So I end up feeling like I can't blame her for the lackluster parenting because she did the best with what she was given and capable of. And I think all she wanted was a "normal" kid and I never really could pull that off. That's not to say that what she did didn't warp me. Being accused of being a sick masturbating pervert at 8 years old kind of skews you sexually, getting the ol' "they're all going to laugh at you!" fucks you up socially, being the person she turned to when she had regular crying fits translates to your future dating life.

My father was similar too kind of, except his method of child rearing was to put me through a battery of increasingly bizarre and contradictory psychological tests to make me a better human being. It isn't his fault that I failed them.
 

fletcher

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I'm jealous of people with truly horrible mother stories. Because my mother did try her best, she just wasn't...good. So I end up feeling like I can't blame her for the lackluster parenting because she did the best with what she was given and capable of. And I think all she wanted was a "normal" kid and I never really could pull that off. That's not to say that what she did didn't warp me. Being accused of being a sick masturbating pervert at 8 years old kind of skews you sexually, getting the ol' "they're all going to laugh at you!" fucks you up socially, being the person she turned to when she had regular crying fits translates to your future dating life.

My father was similar too kind of, except his method of child rearing was to put me through a battery of increasingly bizarre and contradictory psychological tests to make me a better human being. It isn't his fault that I failed them.
I think we had the same parents. Except for the fact that my father didnt give much of a shit about my brother and I and was a stone cold alcoholic and closeted homosexual. Maybe just the same mom, she was trying to push me into therapy for being a "different" kid right around 10 years old.
 

VMS

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My only real problem with my mom, but it's a pretty big one, is that she's just one of those inherently unhappy people.

Look, she has a right to be. Both parents died when she was young. She lived through the Korean War when she was a small child. When she moved to the US with my father, they lived a very hard life for decades.

But she built a great business, and made a lot of money. In part thanks to me, they invested it in some property that is supporting them now that the business closed. They clear a very nice chunk of change on a commercial property, all without lifting a finger. She's in her 60s and has nothing to do but travel and enjoy herself.

No, they're not really "rich": they can't afford to buy a new Mercedes every year, though they could probably afford to buy a nice Toyota or something every year. They're going to spend 4 month this year alone traveling overseas, and vacationing.

Both her kids are in good shape, have good lives, no major problems. She has a granddaughter and a grandson on the way.

But for some fucking reason, she's just un-fucking-happy. There is no joy in her life. She's worked her ass off for 60 years, she's lived through fucking hell, and she now lives in a big house with food on the table, four cars between the two of them, a vegetable garden in the backyard, weekly hikes on the Appalachian Trail, parties with their friends, overseas travel, etc., etc., and she's the most miserable person you've ever met.

Smile, for fuck's sake! You fucking WON. Life is GOOD. Fucking ENJOY it!!!
 

mills

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Being an only child certainly has its benefits. Everything I hear from people with siblings, it all gets fucked up eventually.
 

LiddyRules

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I think we had the same parents. Except for the fact that my father didnt give much of a shit about my brother and I and was a stone cold alcoholic and closeted homosexual. Maybe just the same mom, she was trying to push me into therapy for being a "different" kid right around 10 years old.
Neither of my parents drank and I'm pretty sure my father's straight. My parents are actually still together. But I know what you mean about the "cold" father, even though I don't resent it for him because I too am pretty cold and emotionally distant myself. He was also never "mean" with his treatment, he seemed to more or less have fun with it.

I just really wish I came from smarter stock.
 

Badfinger

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Most people were fucked up by their parents.
I think one of life's goals should be to realize that and to fuck our own kids up less.
 

VMS

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Being an only child certainly has its benefits. Everything I hear from people with siblings, it all gets fucked up eventually.
Nah. I get along great with my little sister. Of course, she lives 12 time zones away, I only see her for a couple of weeks a year, but we get along great.

We disagree (cordially) on politics, the environment, places to live (obviously), and a hundred other things, but we actually like and respect one another.
 

CousinDave

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Most people were fucked up by their parents.
I think one of life's goals should be to realize that and to fuck our own kids up less.

I really can't blame my parents, I'm just fucked up, its the fault of nobody but myself
 

LiddyRules

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Here's something I was wondering a couple days ago so I figure here's a good as place as any to ask. Did anyone ever have that "cathartic" moments with their parents? Some kind of "You did this to me! The way you raised me! You ruined me!" thing? Because I cannot imagine ever having that. I don't think it would bring me any relief and I think it would be so douche-chillingly awkward and embarassing.
 
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Here's something I was wondering a couple days ago so I figure here's a good as place as any to ask. Did anyone ever have that "cathartic" moments with their parents? Some kind of "You did this to me! The way you raised me! You ruined me!" thing? Because I cannot imagine ever having that. I don't think it would bring me any relief and I think it would be so douche-chillingly awkward and embarassing.
I sort of did... My Dad died when I was 22 and my sister was 15, so kind of part of helping her through it was us and my mom sort of venting on all things good and bad in the memory department. It helped over-all more than I would have thought.

Not exactly the same thing as you're talking about, but you seemed to be hanging there with no responses.
 

Party Rooster

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How many assets can you possibly stand to inherit if she's making you cash in a life insurance policy for $600? It doesn't sound like that will is all that valuable.
Not to mention what kind of a shrewd businesswoman would invest in a life insurance policy for 20 years and only have $578 to show for it. Isn't Motorhead in his late 30's? I honestly expected to see a "k" after that $578 number.
 

LZMF1

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Liddy, i doubt i'll ever have a moment like that with my mother because i rarely speak to her or the rest of my family.

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