Here's the situation. There is a women at work who lost her husband last month, and to listen to her you would of thought it had happened yesturday, and unexpectedly. Her husband was diagnosed with termanal cancer a long time ago and was past the time he was supposed to die. He was living in misery and finially died, as I said about a month ago. Mourning somebodys death is normal especially when it's your husband, but he was in pain, and yes it's still o.k. to mourn but please realize he is in a much better place now and is in no pain. There was a memorial service where everybody at work showed up, we gave her cards, flowers,etc, to show sympathy. My boss's birthday was a few weeks ago and even spent hours on end at this womens house because she was so upset. So we did show her we care and the sypmathy and attention was there, people were there for her. I have heard this women ask clients about there husbands passing, and one of them gave her guidence, but I was shocked and appauled that she would do that,,,it wasn't too private, I heard the whole conversation so not cool at all. I have also heard her say, "so and so told me that she had lost her father recently and knows what I am going through! Well she has NO idea what im going through, it's completely differnet losing your husband as oppose to your father!!!" Now I heard that and was again shocked. I mean this women who lost her dad was trying to help for christ sake. And you don't compare especially the way she did. She said it was different because fathers are expected to pass as are mothers...well sorry lady but so are husbands with cancer. She just came in and has this ho-hum poor is me attitude and it's just sickening because I know she just want's attention. She has stopped to talk with clients etc, and has said certain things in front of them about how upset she is, she did this in front of me because she is begging for a "reaction" from me....well sorry lady it's just not happening. She even wen't so far as to say to me "did you hear what I said to Jane? I was talking about how expensive it's going to be and how hard it's going to be to live on my own now"----now I can sympathize but you know what? This is too much to take. There is another women who's husband had cancer and recently beat it. He was a part of the Red Sox Dana Farber Cancer thing and was doing really aggressive treatements,,,he beat it and im sure that was hard to hear as well. Oh another comment she made last week, she said very loudly after somebody said "well I would like to help set up the cape cod marathon but my husband and I love to spend sundays together, we work so much that it's our day",,,oh boy she said "I WOULD LOVE NOTHING MORE THAN TO DO THAT BUT I CANT!!!!! MY HUSBAND IS DEAD HES GONE!!!!!!!":icon_eek: So is this just me being a deek or is she a lil crazy???