Wedding Reception Advice?

ChrisH

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Hey gang,

I proposed to my chick about a month ago, and she said yes! We're going to get hitched, and have begun the already stressfull process of putting together a reception (we will probably do a civil ceremony beforehand).

If anyone has any good ideas/budget savers (we aren't poor, but aren't rich, and the greater NYC area is so friggin expensive!) for pulling off a nice reception that doesn't make us look cheap or break the bank, it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!

p.s. Yes, before you ask, she is fine with signing a prenup.
 

WonkaVision

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I just got engaged, and me and her actually looked into going to Vegas to get married. For about 5k you can get a nice wedding at the Bellagio. You get a Nice suite for 2 nights, full wedding reception and they broadcast it online.

Don't think we are going to do it, but it was a reasonable option.
 

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Hey gang,

I proposed to my chick about a month ago, and she said yes! We're going to get hitched, and have begun the already stressfull process of putting together a reception (we will probably do a civil ceremony beforehand).

If anyone has any good ideas/budget savers (we aren't poor, but aren't rich, and the greater NYC area is so friggin expensive!) for pulling off a nice reception that doesn't make us look cheap or break the bank, it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!

p.s. Yes, before you ask, she is fine with signing a prenup.
'Wedding reception in the NYC area' and 'budget saver' are two terms that don't work in the same sentence.

Unless you have the reception at that classy French place...

Jacques in The Box.
 

ChrisH

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I just got engaged, and me and her actually looked into going to Vegas to get married. For about 5k you can get a nice wedding at the Bellagio. You get a Nice suite for 2 nights, full wedding reception and they broadcast it online.

Don't think we are going to do it, but it was a reasonable option.
Congrats. Both of our families are here in the NYC area, and we have a lot of friends/family we would want to invite, so it will have to be here; plus, given how much we've given to our friends and family over the years for their weddings, we're looking for some payback! :icon_wink
 
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BUFFET DINNER...seriously, It is always cheaper and everyone gets to eat what they want and get full which = happy.
Set a budget and stick to it...My wife and i did our wedding for sub $5000 (our set limit) we spent the real money on a house because we both knew the wedding was about US and it didn't matter if we spent $5000 or $50,000 all we would have the next day was memories....I know sappy, but it makes sense. Your biggies are going to be your guest list (How many)...where you do the reception, and what time of year...May-Sept is realllly expensive. We got married outdoors on a mountain in NH and had the reception a mile away...It was great and toally memorable and no one could tell we skimped :)
 
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As a former groom I can say that the most valuable thing to you on that day of the fog of passers by and well wishers is the buddies you have sneaking you drinks.

Take pictures first.
 

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If you're wife is cool with it, get married at City Hall. Then the take the money you would spend on the wedding and invest into the reception. That was what one of my buddies did.
 

ChrisH

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If you're wife is cool with it, get married at City Hall. Then the take the money you would spend on the wedding and invest into the reception. That was what one of my buddies did.
Not only is she cool with it, she actually suggested this route, which is probably going to be the way we go.

Thanks to all for the advice.
 
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If you're wife is cool with it, get married at City Hall. Then the take the money you would spend on the wedding and invest into the reception. That was what one of my buddies did.
My girlfriend has a traditional, religious family. :arrrh:

She doesn't share their beliefs, mind you, but she will give them what they want when it comes to stuff like weddings.
 

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Not familiar with NYC but can you get a spot at park, put up a tent and have it there?
My Cousin had his somewhere in the city on a rooftop garden overlooking central Patk
 

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Best bet, if possible, go to a nice catering hall in Jersey, where you can do the ceremony in one room (most of them have chapels), and then do the reception in one of there banquet rooms.
 

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Sorry to hear the news. I mean, congratulations! :action-sm

Most people don't remember too much about the day because they were so drunk. Take the money for the day and put it into getting a home, unless you have that already. The day is for the woman anyway, so if she was cool about not having a big wedding, use the money for better things.

Just think, more than 50% of the people wasted their money.
 

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Best bet, if possible, go to a nice catering hall in Jersey, where you can do the ceremony in one room (most of them have chapels), and then do the reception in one of there banquet rooms.
When I lived at the shore..lots of people had their wedding at the beach pavilion and their reception on grass across from it.
 

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DIY on as much as possible, and recruit all the bridesmaids and groomsmen. We saved a ton of dough by doing a lot of stuff ourselves. IE - we bought inexpensive square glass vase's, and wire at a craft store. We buched up the wire inside the vase, and inserted a single calla lily in each one. Then surrounded them with tea candles. It had a very clean and contemporary look, not to mention it looked like we spent a fortune on it. It only cost roughly $100 for 20 tables.
 

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DIY on as much as possible, and recruit all the bridesmaids and groomsmen. We saved a ton of dough by doing a lot of stuff ourselves. IE - we bought inexpensive square glass vase's, and wire at a craft store. We buched up the wire inside the vase, and inserted a single calla lily in each one. Then surrounded them with tea candles. It had a very clean and contemporary look, not to mention it looked like we spent a fortune on it. It only cost roughly $100 for 20 tables.
I agree..when my sister was getting married some guy tried to charge my sister 1000 per tree for 10 ficus trees..we ended paying a total of 500 for 10 when we got them ourselves.
 

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we did a JOP and a dinner with the closest family and friends, including myself and my wife there were 22 people at our wedding, we decided early on that we didn't want to be bothered with any type of conventional wedding, in the end we were quite happy with what we did, it was a nice quick ceremony, and a quiet dinner with friends at an ok restaurant, not a drawn out bull shit church thing with the huge reception at the local "wedding place" last Sunday i went to a friends dad's wedding and have decided that will be the last one that i go to for a while, even before that one i decided that i was done with them for any one but my closest friends, and i mean close, top five kind of thing, ive come to really hate weddings, besides the last one i went too i was the only person drinking
 

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We're gonna be facing all of these things once the church confirms our wedding date and we need to start planning all of the reception stuff... I am all for the DIY stuff... you can get so much stuff at little craft stores and make them look really great... also, save on invitations by doing them yourself... SO easy to do on a computer... have her get her hair and make up done by a friend who can do them, nails, too if shes into that... dont do too many flowers and SHOP for them to find the best prices because they WILL try to fuck you over... hmmmm... Im thinking of these for myself while thinking of them for you, so if I come up with more, ill let you know!
 

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... have her get her hair and make up done by a friend who can do them, nails, too if shes into that...
why the fuck do women care about nails?...file, clean, and a coat of paint. zip zap..29 min tops and done... I mean, what the F?
 

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I applaud you for trying to keep it low key. I know it's hard. When we were looking, we found a wine vineyard here in PA that would hold our reception for about $400, but that didn't include food or additional alcohol. We could bring our own booze, and they did supply the wine (though if I remember correctly, you had to pay for what you opened).

DIY is a good idea too. I did the table cards, programs & favors myself (well my dad did the favors, but they were still semi inexpensive. We did smaller wine bottles filled with home made wine and printed labels out on the computer)

As someone else pointed out, may-august are usually the most expensive months. Try Jan, Feb, or Nov. They tend to be cheaper. Definitely go with buffet, MUCH cheaper than per head.

Have her check the internet for DIY table centerpieces. Also another big money saver...CALL IN FAVORS. If you have a friend who is good at taking pictures, or has a huge music collection, or can bake. That will help with costs.

I wish I could offer you more, but unfortunately my wedding was WAY to expensive for just one day! As long as both of you are happy with a lower key wedding, I think it's a wonderful idea. Congratulations!!!!

Edit: CaraC has a great idea with having her hair and makeup done by a friend. I had a hairdresser friend do my hair and my aunt, who was a beauty school teacher do my makeup. I didn't pay them anything.
 

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I applaud you for trying to keep it low key. I know it's hard. When we were looking, we found a wine vineyard here in PA that would hold our reception for about $400, but that didn't include food or additional alcohol. We could bring our own booze, and they did supply the wine (though if I remember correctly, you had to pay for what you opened).

DIY is a good idea too. I did the table cards, programs & favors myself (well my dad did the favors, but they were still semi inexpensive. We did smaller wine bottles filled with home made wine and printed labels out on the computer)

As someone else pointed out, may-august are usually the most expensive months. Try Jan, Feb, or Nov. They tend to be cheaper. Definitely go with buffet, MUCH cheaper than per head.

Have her check the internet for DIY table centerpieces. Also another big money saver...CALL IN FAVORS. If you have a friend who is good at taking pictures, or has a huge music collection, or can bake. That will help with costs.

I wish I could offer you more, but unfortunately my wedding was WAY to expensive for just one day! As long as both of you are happy with a lower key wedding, I think it's a wonderful idea. Congratulations!!!!

Edit: CaraC has a great idea with having her hair and makeup done by a friend. I had a hairdresser friend do my hair and my aunt, who was a beauty school teacher do my makeup. I didn't pay them anything.
If you went to the Preate Winery...I will hit you with a wet mackerel! I swear!:icon_mrgr
 

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A nice way to save on hiring a professional photographer is to get one time use cameras and put them on the tables, have people do their own photos and collect the cameras and have them processed. Screen the prints for any cock pixs and you should a nice set of photos.
 

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Honestly, the church part wasn't expensive at all for my wedding. The string quartet, fluitist and bagpipe player we had play at the church, however, was.

I would just say that you should really have a budget and stick to it... and make sure the two of you communicate on that. I honestly have no idea how much my wedding cost... probably upwards of $40k ... and shit fell apart a year later... long story.