Do you think family and friends should commemorate the birthday somehow or should it just be another day, now that the person is no longer there to celebrate? Today is my mom's birthday but she passed away last November. We never made a big deal out of the day - per her request. Usually just ordered in chinese and chatted away while the food network played in the background. On ocassion we would go out, if she was feeling healthy enough. No pity party here please ... just seeking other views Discuss!